Ok ill do that, but what if its true??? what if he gets hostile with me???? what then?

And what if he takes it upon himself to tell his wife or my husband that i talked to him??

And if I do this before I have proof of the suspected A, I might just be causing more problems, ugh.

Believe me, its not true. If if were true, would the OW be having an affair with your H? If there were really cause for concern, then why isn't SHE concerned?

And thats ok if he tells his W or your H.

Hold off on calling him and maybe you can have more evidence tomorrow. But I do think you have plenty of evidence NOW to call him. It won't hurt to wait a day, though.

ok thanks melody.....going to try and see if i can find some info for his parents, and get a phone # or something.

thank you again.

AHHHHHH - my father and brother just left to go follow WH and see what he is up to this evening. I hope they dont get caught. If they do WH will be fuming!! I am so nautious I can hardly stand it. I cant help but feel something bad is going to happen, but yet that seems to be the theme of my day lately. Constantly thinking bad things are happening, becuase he is with OW everyday at work.

She answered the phone when I called the office and I wanted to strangle the phone and hope she felt it. UGH. Its not like she doesnt know that he is married, and she has even seen me come to the office with the kids and knows that I am pregnant too.

I am so not a mean or vicious person, nor would I ever be doing any of this sneaky business of trying to find out stuff behind WH back. Following him around and such. It feels dirty. I hate it. I hate that I have to do it too. But I know I have to in order to protect myself and my kids.

Oh goodness, I hope all goes well.


Well that was a bust. They just called and said they wernt sure if it was his car so they tried to follow and lost the car, and now they dont even know if it was him. <sob> I dont know what to do now. This sucks!!!

Have them tail him in the morning. Have them stake out her trailer and I bet they will get the goods!

Can you get your hands on his online comp CC statement?

((((Heidi)))) I'm so sorry.

well i was asking about accessing his company CC that is in his name statement online, can I get in trouble for that?

and can i get in trouble for accessing his cell phone records online?

and i dont mean by my H, obviously he is going to get mad, but can I get into legal trouble for doing that?

thank you - im sorry too, i thought for sure I would have my proof.

I think ill look into renting a GPS maybe.

PI costs like $175 an hour - good grief!!!!!

if you do it from the home computer, I don't know how anyone would know he didn't do it.

Mr. Wondering where are you?

I agree with Mel, can they go to her trailer? Maybe they will see his car there.

To find out if she is at the health club, you could call and ask for her while your WH is there tomorrow. Then maybe your dad or broter could find her car in the parking lot.

chicago suburbs, illinois

Heidi?

Can you get in trouble?

Not as long as you FOREVER stick to the story that your WH asked you to do it.

No prosecutor in his right mind is going to prosecute a Mother of 3 trying to or successfully accessing her suspected Wayward Husband's credit card statement. Even so you stick to the line..."WH asked me to do it, if he says differently I can only suppose he must have been trying to set me up to make me look bad in the divorce".

edited to add: If WH catchs you, you deny, deny, deny...just like him. If he is convinced and threatens to turn you into the police...stay strong and call his bluff "would you like me to dial the number for you". He won't call. I promise. But he'll use it to manipulate you and also to make himself the victim if you allow him to.

Don't sweat it, get it.

Mr. W

Oh for goddnness sake. I accessed my WH's work cell records for months at hone. He would never say a word. I hid them anyway. Just hide them real good. Like at your mothers or lawyers office. We worry about so much and it really is easy. They will never know you did this ynless you tell them.

they may if there is a password. If he has already accessed them online, then he has a password. You can type in the you forgot the password, but they will send it to the phone...

Thats how my H caught me getting them... I didn't care though cuz I got them anyway...

Hi im here sorry.......

ok well my cell and his cell and a bunch of other employees all have the cells thru the company, it asks for a SS# and I presume its his fathers but i dunno, and it locks you out after three failed attempts.

havent tried the CC yet.

Oh geeze.....my parents just left my house and they drove by his office there are no cars there. He said he was going to this business meeting with Mike, soooo Mike's car should still be at the office..but no.

So now they are on the way to OW trailer. I found her address and used mapquest. And the restaurant that my WH says he goes for a drive and stops to eat there is literally a 2 min drive from her trailer.

They are going to check the restaurant too.

I hope they dont get caught, but I dont suppose it matters if they do. What is he goint to get mad at my parents for catching him with another woman? I sent them with a camera incase both cars are there.

Nautious again.

I asked him if he found his ring today. He says he didnt even look for it. He said dont worry I will. I can see how important it is to him.

My daughter cried herself to sleep tonight while I held and comforted her because daddy wasnt home with us. I tried to be positive for her sake (h*ll mine too).

I hope that I am not too late to save my marriage and I fear that I am.

OMG!!!!

I just logged into his remote connection to his office, and the OW had forwarded WH a bunch of twonhouse property listings that were sent to her for consideration, that are in my damn town and that are so far from anything she could possibly afford I cant even believe it.

How does one go from sleeping on an air mattress in a trailer park, to buying a $350,000 townhouse?????????
Oh and also shopping for new Nissan SUV???????
Did she win the lotto or something!!!!!!

OMG my heart just sank.

Heidi,
Can you print all this off and save it somewhere safe?

Can you access his chat archives?

I know this is hard, but you are doing great at gathering information.

We're here if you need to talk, ok.

Take a deep breath. Don't freak out. The baby doesn't need that.