I just joined this forum. I'm not really into chat rooms or anything, but I need help!!! For anyone on understand it's a long story. I met my husband in church. We are very strict as far as beliefs go(no premarrial sex)Well to say the lest my husband was a "backslidden preacher son and I was a sheltered 27year who hadn't a clue. needless to say after one time of sex I got pregant. I had fixed feeling about this and about him,due to the fact I had told him no and I didn't know he was high and drunk..... Well I had my wonderful daughter and My husband got back in church we marriage almost a month after having my daughter. Moved from Ca to live w/ his parent in SC. after 6 months I became pregant w/ our son. I was VERY sick through out the WHOLE thing. 3 month after he was born he was Dx w/ seizures, about 7 months later my husband get hurt and is not able to go to work, so I get a job to support us. About a year later my brother in law has a car fall on him and he passes away before him and my husband can make peace from a previous fight. Needless to say we have had alot of fights. I love him w/ my whole heart, but after this last fight (1 month ago) he left and moved in w/ his parents. I've begged him to come home, called him, & written him letters, but 2 weeks ago he stated that he has no desire for me and wants to move on. He's stop going to church and says there no need to work on our marriage that we've tried for 7 years.
Well I was/am in a state of shock because no matter our fights or hardships we've always had each other. I read the book men are from mars and women are from venus and that help open my eyes to soooo much. I really afraid that my marriage is over and we get started moving out from all the things that have happen to us. I've spoken and my paster and he states that my husband needs time and not to meddle, don't call him, write him or anything and let time and God heal him. I've never been in a situation likes this and I don't want to lose him. He did state that he wasn't seeing anyone.... I just don't understand I have told him forever we needed help , but he never would agree. His dad told me just give him time that 1 month isn't really much time when your dealing with hurts and trying to find yourself. He just started back to work about 3 months ago. 3/06 will be 5 years since he was injuried. I do believe God can work a miracle,but I just feel so helpless. I'm sorry for rambling Ijust want to do right and I want my husband back I know we both have hurt and pain,but there's nothing that can't be worked out. How can someone go from 1 1/2 months ago I love you so much a want to envelope you and 2 weeks later I don't desire you?????? Is that just anger block his feelings??? or can someone turn things off and on like that. Oh also to add to my drama 8-) our son was hospialize three time and we almost lost him once. I just want time to REALLY work on our marriage before one of us just decides to throw all our hopes and dreams away....
Thanks