Well today was my first official day back to work <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
It felt so good to have my mind on something else (taxes, really is a break for me) besides my STBXWH and D. Though I was exhausted today when I got home, it was well worth it. I now feel like I can contribute more to society than kids <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

LOL!

Good for you Pepsi. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Yay, Pepsi!

Talk to STBXWH today b/c I needed some money for gas, diapers, formula and clothes for DD9 and to make sure he was going to pay a couple of bills that are coming due.

He asked if he could see the kids and if I would drop them off over FIL/MIL. I told him that he would have to come get them b/c he knows that I have no reliable transportation b/c the van is not fixed yet and that I was not going over IL's (I'm Plan B'ing them) and kids don't want to go over there b/c MIL was cussing at them the last time they were there.

Well anyways, he starts complaining that it's too far to drive <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />(but he could drive an hour one way to go see OW). Then starts complaining about having no money b/c he is giving it to his attorney for the D to get it over with ASAP, that his rent went up on his apartment and boo who who.

Well I LB big time and told him that no place is too far to drive and see your kids. I told him he should have money b/c he has not given me a dime to support his kids since the end of August. I then told him how could he look at himself in the mirror and not know how his kids are eating and how they are getting by. That he doesn't care about them, doesn't care if we have transportation, and his actions are proving it. That he couldn't even see them or get them anything for Christmas.

He then said that he didn't want to hear me put him down b/c he feels bad enough as it is and did not need to hear it from me too. He said that he was doing the best he could, that I just did not understand what was going on over there. He said that I am going to believe what I want to but I really don't understand what is going on over there.

He said maybe he can get the D over with ASAP so we (the kids and I) will have the money we need (he is stalling the D). I told him that all I wanted was him to put the kids first, then hung up the phone on him.

He makes me so mad. I really feel like I hate him. He keeps saying that his attorney is moving fast with this D but I know for a fact that they are stalling, so why does he keep saying that? Why does he keep saying that I really don't understand what is going on over there? And why does he keep complaining about him having no money b/c when he has to start paying CS and Spousal Support, he will really have no money?

Hello wanted to make an observation:

As an attorney myself I can bet you that it is his attorney that is stalling the divorce. The attorney blames the client and your WH blames the attorney but in the end the longer your case takes usually the more money the lawyer makes. He's probably with a divorce shop that bilks their clients for fees. They are unnecessarily acromonious for the sole purpose of making more money. It works for divorce firms because there is always a husband or wife that loves a jerk for a lawyer. The resulting settlement is almost always worse cause there is less to split and more in the lawyers pocket so other lawyers know to cave in on all the meaningless issue up front if they ever want to accomplish anything...thus, making the jerks even appear better than they really are. It's a vicuous game.

Divorce attorneys and Bankruptcy attorneys are GENERALLY the dregs of the profession...I mean what bright shining star, top of the class type lawyer would CHOOSE that area of practice???.

No offense...I've done 1 divorce for a friend and will never do it again.

Mr. Wondering

p.s. - I originally wanted to post cause I thought it sad, then hilarious that your 9 year old daughter still wears diapers and drinks formula.

I don't think you need an interpreter, you need someone to go whack some sense into the WS. So he is waiting until the D to give you $$? How stupid is that?

Yea, enable his inabilities by catering to his requests of taking the kids to another place just for his convience. As for the $$ issue, if he feels you are all worth more, then he s/b willing to walk across hot coals to give you his best. If he is giving his best, then maybe he ought t/b put to pasture....either way, the OW ain't the answer. Let him know if he is doing his best, he is a big disappointment. But then again, isn't the OW making him a better person?!?!? Play that babble in his ear. I did that to mine and demanded the OW make him better....after all she promised me in an e-mail she would. That OW turned out t/b a LIAR!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

Well, finally there is a court date for the temp orders. Fri, Jan 20 @ 2pm.

I'm just scared that WH and his attorney will try to postpone it b/c he is suppose to go to Nebraska for a tournament (he has money to go to Nebraska but none to support his kids-go figure).

***Bump***

I hope you can get it done on the 20th. I am supposed to be in court today, but it has been delayed another 2 weeks. The precourt anxiety and then the let down of no court-it is exhausting.

Hey Jean,

I hope to get it done too but I have a feeling that he and his attorney and attorney will delay it.

Sorry about yet another delay ,so why is you court date being delayed again.

Honestly, I am not sure, I got the call at 6:30 PM. We may be bickering over WH's income and using the two week extension to gather info to support income claims. I will talk to the attorney today and find out what is going on.

But, they did agree to pay what I am asking for January, so hopefully that is a good sign that they will agree to that amount for temp support (fingers crossed)

Yes, I hope so. I will be praying that is the case.

Well the kids and I went to 1st session of the court-ordered divorcing parents class. The last session is next week.

Overall, it went very well. It was very informative & helpful. The kids said that they had fun (whatever that means), I guess since STBXWH and I have been separated since April, they already had time to process some of their emotions/feelings and are already kinda use to it.

BTW, one man brought his OW to class with him for support<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />, they told her she had to pay the fee or leave, she left b/c he did not want to pay for her. Maybe a little LB there <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Okay, just talked to my attorneys office. The court date on next Friday is for the judge to meet the parties and to get caught up on what's going on with the case.

I am just praying that the judge will see that STBXWH has not given me a dime since the end of Aug and will order him then to start paying CS and SS.

Anyone know anything about Case Manangement Hearings?

BUMP

Hope you can get to court and get some money out of him. All of his talk is just excuses - there is NOTHING going on, just an affair. He needs his money to keep the affair going.

OK...every since yesterday when attorney called me about the court date next Fri. I keep getting calls on my cell phone from an Private Caller (only STBXWH has called me from a private number). Wonder if he's trying to get me worked up before court.

Also found out that he cannot postpone w/o good cause and his last day to postpone was Wed. Well I guess he won't be making that trip to Nebraska after all.

It's time to pay the piper <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

OK, got this email from my DD9 teacher:

Hi *****,
I hated to call you at work today because I know this is a busy time of
year, ***** was quite upset today. She said that Dad is no longer
living at home. I asked if she wanted to talk with *****(Our
counselor) and she said no. I just had her go to the restroom and calm
down and when she returned she seemed ok. I will let you know if anything
more develops.
I just wanted to let you know the situation.
Thanks
Miss *****

I thought that she was doing well but I guess that court-ordered parenting class on Wed. has got to her (STBXWH has been gone since the end of April). I talked to her today and asked how was she doing. She said that she was mad at Dad and she was sad also. I will try to find a counselor for her next week.

BTW, I forwarded the email to STBXWH.

Well court is only 4 days away <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

I have court tomorrow. The first time I will have to see STBXWH in a couple of months. I am so nervous that I don't know what to do.

Talked to attorney. He said that he will make sure to bring up the mortgage about to go into foreclosure and the van being broke down and STBXWH not willing to do anything about those issues.

He said that the judge was a hard-nosed judge which he thinks will work to our advantage. Maybe he will put STBXWH in his place and throw the book at him for not supporting his kids and taking care of his responsibilities.

I sure hope so. I wish that I did not have to see him.