Just wanted to let everyone know whats going on... It's been 3 months since end of WH internet flirting, and 2 months since we moved back in together. There hasn't been any more internet problems (I have keylogger in order to keep an eye on this.. it's sooooo reassuring!) We've been going to counseling and slowly been getting back to a "normal" life. There are no more fights (down from 2 or 3 horrible fights a week, leading up to his seeking someone to talk to on the net) He's becoming much more affectionate every day, although there's still no sex, which worries me. We are making plans for the future and looking forward to our baby being born. I think I'm following plan A good 97% of the time, with very few love busters. (every few weeks I freak out a little bit about no sex, ie crying, asking why, don't you find me attractive, ect..) Trying to be strong and not do that anymore, just calmly tell him my needs, but so far that doesnt' do much good, but at least I'm not driving him away further. Anyways, pretty postitive overall.. still scared to death and very vigilant, but I'm sure that takes time. Thank you all for the support, ideas, and just a place to vent!

sutherlandgirl,

Sounds pretty good and promising but lots to still work on.

Are you two in counseling?

Trying to be strong is great but pushing the troubling issues under the rug isn't good. He needs to be willing to discuss with you your questions and answer them til you feel safe.