Hi -

I have been reading so many books aver the yeras about marriage and affairs, relationships, parenting. And right now I am starting a new one mentioned on this board "the Divine Center" by Stephen Covey. Just arrived from Amazon today. So when the boys leave with their father I will sit down with a cup of tea and begin.

Are there any books that you have found helpful - old or new? Post them here. Or if you find a quote particularly helpful you could share it here.

Blessings - Jan

I am quite partial to history books, particularly WAR books. I would have to say my favorite war is WWII, the European theatre.

I haven't done much study of the American Revolution, though, but recently read 1776 by David McCullogh.

I find history to be very inspiring, because there are often examples of courage, bravery, principles and justice. I find that awe inspriring.

What is your favorite war?

Jan, your book looks really interesting! Here is the review from Amazon:

Editorial Reviews

Book Description
A classic book available for the first time in paperback
All of us at some point search for an organizing principle in life, one that is simple without being simplistic, that offers enduring direction. The book introduces, explains, and illuminates such a principle – centering one’s life on Christ. It examines twelve other "centers" and their effect on key dimensions of our lives: our security, guidance, wisdom, and power. Although those other perspectives offer some value, only the "divine center" meets all the tests. This powerful principle is given life by an inspiring presentation of "how-tos" –imaginative, thought-provoking explanations of the divine-centering process and steps necessary to achieve the goal.

About the Author
Dr. Stephen R. Covey is co-founder/vice-chairman of Franklin-Covey Company. An internationally respected consultant, family expert, and teacher, he is perhaps best known as the author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, which has sold more than 13 million copies in 36 languages throughout the world. He has served as a mission president (in Ireland), as a regional representative, and on several general Church committees. He and his wife, Sandra, have nine children and live in Utah.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1590384...ks&v=glance

Spoken like a true Texican, Melody. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

My favorite war is the Civil War. Became interested after a visit to Gettysburg many years ago. Now my library sports three rows of texts on that conflict. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

BTW, I'm in awe of folks who can buy from Amazon.com. I can't afford to pay full price anymore so I go to half.com to find the same books for a quarter on the dollar.

For instance, "How To Survive An Affair" is on half.com for $6.00

Hey, small world! That is DH's favorite war! We have visited Vicksburg and more recently visited the Civil War museum in Mansfield, LA. It was really cool!

He wants to take me to Gettysburg on our next wedding anniversary! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

It's an excellent place to go. Lots of tours or you can walk/drive around at your own pace.

oh lord I am addicted to the egyptian novels by wilbur smith...I read River God and since that book I haven't stopped...he's such a good author I pick up a book and I just can't put it down...it's addictive.

ML - World War II - our family is big into that. My dad was a child in the Netherlands during the Nazi occupation so it has been a fascination of ours for quite some time. Band of Brothers is a big favorite here. I began The Divine Center last night. Covey is an easy guy to read - and the book flows well. I'll keep you guys posted as I get farther into it.

Longhorn - My dad is a big Civil War buff. We spent many summers as a child touring battlefields and old forts. My dad has collected memorabilia as well - including the personal journal, pictures and papers of a confederate general held prisoner during the war. It's quite a collection that he stumbled upon.

SIHW - Never heard of Wilbur Smith - But my DD is really into Egypt. I'll have to check those out for her. I am lucky that my kids are big time readers.

And I have never heard of half.com - I'll have to check it out.

"Buyers, Renters, and Freeloaders"
by Willard Harley

Quote in my byline

Cherished - never heard of that book. And I thought I'd read every Harley Book out there!

I think it's called "The One" now. It's my favorite book of his.
Cherished

Hi Jan -

For my own personal healing, these books helped:

Daddy Loves His Girls, by T.D. Jakes

When Godly People Do Ungodly Things, by Beth Moore

and, The Battle Belongs to the Lord, by Joyce Meyer

Rose

Another book I found helpful was "the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands".

It is a great read and has some great points. But I caution you - I saw a lot of my self in the countless, uncaring wives illustrated in the book. Perhaps it is even helpful to those who are trying to PLan A - it has some really good points.

Mel..if you're driving from Texas to Gettysburg, come by way of Chattanooga, Tennessee. There's much there about the Civil War. You'll see the battlefields that are national parks and protected. It's a great tour with much information. Head north on I75 and you'll find great information all the way to Gettysburg. You'll go to Lookout Mountain where you'll see the cannons and "lookouts." It's well worth your time and wonderful in the spring with the blooming dogwoods.

I frequently recommend "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz - it was so valuable for me getting over the OW to learn not to take her "revelation" that God told her to call my husband after NC letter, I learned how to get out of her drama, and find that I didn't have to take anything personally.

Another one for dealing with fear and money issues that infidelity typically causes: "You Were Born Rich", by Bob Proctor. A personal share about this one - up until a year ago, I had been plagued with fear and lack of resources - angry with my husband over his disability and addiction, (and a stubborn disregard for the financial needs of the family). Reading the verse he quotes in his first chapter from Job 3 - about fear - was a transforming experience. I read the entire story of Job and saw myself in his defiance against his torment of loss - clinging to his faith that though worms eat his flesh, he will be devoted to God - I had been that strong in my faith, but yet weak, in that I didn't receive the goodness of God into my life. Transformational moment!

"The Divine Center" has a secular counterpart - "Principle Centered Leadership", also by Covey.

"Excuse Me; Your Life Is Waiting" is another favorite - by Lynn Grabhorn. Really good stuff in this one!

I read about a book every two weeks - either a career book or a self-improvement book.

Jan, Mel, I've been to the Chattanooga, Vicksburg, Petersburg, Appomattox, and a couple dozen smaller battlefields, I guess. The Air Force made me go to Langley for 5 years (Hampton Roads area of SE Virginia) and I lived in an apartment complex in Grafton, VA, a few hundred yards from the (still visible) earthwork entrenchments dug by confederate soldiers in McClellan’s peninsular campaign. Soaked up a LOT of local lore. Half the streets in the area are still named for Confederate generals. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Jan, if your father has that much memorabilia from a Confederate general and the war itself, you do understand it is probably quite valuable, right? Who was the general, if you know?

My book list includes, Surviving an Affair, His Needs, Her Needs, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The care and feeding of Husband, Love has to be tough, and many more I can't remember the names too, lol. Wait, oh yeah, Lovebuster's.

KDS - thanks for your input. Those are all good books. If you haven't read 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families - that is a good one as well.

Love Busters is good too - wish I had read it awhile ago.

Jan

You know, there is one book that in my opinion should be MANDATED for people striving to be the best they can be in this life.

PLease, I beg of you.....read this book...it will inspire you, enlighten you...and help you CHANGE yourself.

This book: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060594...ce&n=283155

is what I primarily owe my "recovery" to.

It changed my life....it can change yours to.

Lem