Hello folks. I've been active on the board but I had to change my handle due to the fact that my W was freaking out every time I post to this "cult of a BS pity party".

For the time being I felt it was best to ease the pressure on her by not inflicting any more pain.

My question for you venerable MB'rs is do you all find that it is common for a BH to be steaming right along and then all of a sudden fall flat on his [censored]?

I have done everything I can. There is NC between her and the curr. Still she's not being open and honest. She's sneaking around charging up our credit cards and acting slightly aloof lately.

There has been absolutely no time for contact for sure. I'm at a loss. This whole thing is eating at me.

Is it possible to go from attraction to repulsion of the FWS for months? Years? Is there any way that this crap will ever end?

I was doing so well. Now all I see is ugliness.

Maybe this all about me now.

EMN.

I'm new here but I know how you feel, I'll be married 2 years this March but we seperated 3 months ago, and it seams to be getting better one day then goes to H**L the next. I printed some information from the site and gave it to him in hope's we too can get past the ugliness, he say's it's all my fault and I'm starting to believe him even though I know it's wrong. Try to look past ugliness, try to give it some more time that's easier said then do I know. I can only hope he still has enough love left for mr to not give up.
Boo

EMN,
I think recovery cycles. It will get better again.

Are you in counseling? Is counseling an option? It has been very good for me even though my FWS does not go.

Easysboo,
pleae start your own thread so it doesn't get lot here. You are not to blame. I know that is hard to believe, but it is true.

take care

Not in counseling don't know if it's an option or if it's just too late. I pray everyday that it wasn't just wasted time. You see we decided to keep the state out of it and married in the eyes of God and our friends. I now seeing what kind of friends we have.

Me:40, never married "for real"
H: 50, married twice and both left him for other men.

Wish I knew how to do the thread thing, I was up late last night {1st time in here} and could not figure out how to post my own subject, but my mind isn't working like it use to lately.. newbee hope to figure it out...

Thanks for the incourgement though as it seame like a vast and empty place I in right now!!

Boo