Here is your own thread. Please post your story with lots of details. You'll get more help that way.

Not in counseling don't know if it's an option or if it's just too late. I pray everyday that it wasn't just wasted time. You see we decided to keep the state out of it and married in the eyes of God and our friends. I'm now seeing what kind of friends we have.

Me:40, never married "for real"
H: 50, married twice and both left him for other men.

I know he blames me for everything even thought thats bull S**T it takes 2. I printed some things from this site and gave them to him but he dosn't seam intrusted. I did go to counseling for awhile and was told to just stay away from him and not even give him the time of day, but that's impossible at this point as we have irons in the fire that requier us to have contact, but I can't seam to leave it to just that. I don't know what to do but know I would give my last breath to save this marriage but I just don't know what to do? I know I have my own issues I need to work out, but can't get him to see his own. I feel so helpless, worthless and alone sometimes I wish tomorrow would never come. It's a vast and empty place I am right now and am strugling everyday just to breath, you would think a person could cry only so much but I find mysefl in tears over just about anything! I've never been very good at expressing my thoughts so I'll say sorry if I seam to be rambling...
Boo

What is it he blames you for, easy?

I interrup him when he's talking, I was out of work for a year "nerves brakedown w/family problems, almost lost my little brother and dad both, job went to h**l to much stress at the time. He feels I took advantage of him, and I feel I was needing him {is that the same?} and so on.. He thinks I have a drinking/drug problem but he does the same and when we go any place it's where he wants to go and it's always the same old bars and and old s**t ..I want to go to a movie, a play, dinner or just a drive but nope it's always what he wants! Sure he gives me a choice of which one of the places he want's to go but it's never anyplace I'd like to go. Asking to go out to dinner is off limites I'd have better luck pulling his teath for him...he drove truck OTR for almost 30 years so he figure he eaten everwhere there is and home is the only place he wants to eat now!!! Gee I could go on for awhile with this, think I'll order in and get back at this after some food.

Thanks!!!!!

easyboo, I just bumped a thread about love busters for you

Faith,

If you bumped me anything either I didn't get it or don't know how to find it!

Thanks again, it's nice to have some people out there to talk to..I have been in isloation to some degree, I really don't have anyone who I can really go out with or talk about things with. I sometimes feel like I really made the wrong decission in the "common law marriage" which BTW is not reconized in the state of Florida, but the point is I believed in it with all of my being, paper is just paper, I didn't need that to know I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. Maybe I found this site to late for US but at least it may help me get through it and learn from my mistakes...I was with my last Bo for 12 years he left me for his bestfriends Ex, life really sucks sometimes and you would think the older you get the easier it would be to move on!!!!