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I reinstated the divorce today.
I took the papers over to the attorney today. We've already had our waiting period since I had previously filed. Now I just have to wait for the attorney to draw up the papers. He'll mail them to me for my signature and then to H.
I suspect H will drag his feet some.
He has continued to see OW and I'm tired.
I feel pretty good about filing and feel like maybe I can finally put all of this behind me.
I am packing H's things as we speak.
I've done a lot around the house this weekend and am using the anger productively.
Married 5 years. Together almost 14 years.
Age 30
DDay March 2004
OC Born June 2004
2nd Dday Feb 2005
My daughter was born 7/22/05.
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I'm sorry it's come to this. I hope that it does bring you some peace, making the decision (and I hope it brings him NO PEACE!!!)
Take care,
MSA
BW 43 me
FWH 39
M 1992; DD 18. 13
OC 8-05 - no contact
In recovery 8 years
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Wife. I am so sorry things have turned out this way.
(((((wife)))))
I know you will go on to bigger, better and more wonderful things and you have that beautiful baby girl to love.
hugs
Carolyn
BW -33 (Me)
WH-38
M- 4 years/together 10
OC (girl) born 03/03
D-Day 08/02
True friends stab you in the front - Oscar Wilde
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Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Wife, I'm so sorry <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I can tell you that the divorce allowed me to separate myself from xH/OW/OC mess and refocus on myself and my DD ... {{{hugs}}}
me-34
xH-38
DD 10/03
D-day 11/03 (cellphone)
Talked-Day 01/04
H left-02/04
Divorce-05/04
xH left -false recovery 1 week- 08/04 -told about OC
OC-07/04
xH left -false recovery 6 weeks- 12/01/04
12/02/04 DESTRUCTION OF MILY MUST END
1/17/05 - Started dating
11/05 - CS and visitation established at Court
02/28/06 - xH moves back after 2 yrs!
10/16/07 - asked xH to leave - he's still in a relationship with OW
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That's what I'm hoping for Mily. Thanks!
Married 5 years. Together almost 14 years.
Age 30
DDay March 2004
OC Born June 2004
2nd Dday Feb 2005
My daughter was born 7/22/05.
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Wife,
I was so sorry to read your news. However, you will be fine. Although I admire the folks here who have worked to save their marriages, they couldn't have done it alone. Their spouses are remorseful and supportive. What your H is doing is selfish and disrespectful. It is liberating to live without snooping and without wondering. My ex and OW are planning to get married, my kids love their half-sibling and I don't have to deal with it anymore. Have to say that I am much happier now than I have been in years.
Go to GQ and read the update from Momto3boys. She is doing great. My ex and I get along fairly well considering but I have never met the OC and do not speak to OW.
Good luck.
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Starving is your divorce final now?
Married 5 years. Together almost 14 years.
Age 30
DDay March 2004
OC Born June 2004
2nd Dday Feb 2005
My daughter was born 7/22/05.
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What is Mom's new name?
And what is the name of the post?
Married 5 years. Together almost 14 years.
Age 30
DDay March 2004
OC Born June 2004
2nd Dday Feb 2005
My daughter was born 7/22/05.
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Here is the link to Mom's post: It's been a while!
me-34
xH-38
DD 10/03
D-day 11/03 (cellphone)
Talked-Day 01/04
H left-02/04
Divorce-05/04
xH left -false recovery 1 week- 08/04 -told about OC
OC-07/04
xH left -false recovery 6 weeks- 12/01/04
12/02/04 DESTRUCTION OF MILY MUST END
1/17/05 - Started dating
11/05 - CS and visitation established at Court
02/28/06 - xH moves back after 2 yrs!
10/16/07 - asked xH to leave - he's still in a relationship with OW
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Thanks, it was good to read.
Married 5 years. Together almost 14 years.
Age 30
DDay March 2004
OC Born June 2004
2nd Dday Feb 2005
My daughter was born 7/22/05.
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