Hello all. This is probably going to be a long post, I hope you all can give me some insight. My husband and I have been married for 3 years and we have a 2 y/o son together. Our entire marriage has been nothing but HIGH stress and lots of fighting. Before we got married, we got along great. My husband was a sweetie-pie, nothing like he is now. I have a lot of resentment towards him, and I really don't think I love him anymore. I surely am not "in love" with him anymore. I do love him as a person, and as the father of my child, but I think thats it. I do not respect him, and he does not respect me. My opinion of him and his character is low. I have no trust in him, he lies and bends the truth a lot. He is very selfish. He has anger issues. I can't even go out with my friends without getting "punished" by him. The man I am married to now is not the man I was in love with. I personally think he has BPD, borderline personality disorder. My therapist believes so also. AND, the reason we got to that conclusion was because I found his Navy discharge papers one day a long time ago that said he was discharged and the reason was "personality disorder". I confronted him about that and he said it wasn't true, that he was just fooling the military DR's to get out of the service. I don't believe that one minute. The only reason I am still with him right now is because of our son. He is a good day, for the most part. My marriage has me very stressed out. I have GREY hair, and I am only 24 years old!! I have been thinking about leaving him, have been for over a year now ... I just can't seem to actually do it! It all boils down to whats best for my son. And, I know some of you are going to throw the "counseling" suggestion out there, but we have been twice, to two different therapists together and we have gotten no where from it. I think about how CALM my life would be if we weren't together. I don't know what to do. All I wanted in life was to have a complete family, and I just don't know how much more of this I can take.

Thanks.

Stressed, are you looking for "approval" to divorce?

If so, go ahead if you believe there is "no hope" for your husband.

Unless you WANT to be married to him, there is little point in trying anything that might help resurrect your marriage. Shoot, we aren't even talking about Adultery here, just your perception of not being loved the way you want to be loved by him.

You are looking for excuses and justifications to renig on your marriage vows....you don't need to....most States honor "no fault".....you just don't want to be married anymore.

On the other hand....if what you are really looking for is some help in saving your marriage....we can assist you in that area. But not until you CHOOSE.

God bless.

stressed, since you are posting on an infidelity board, i am wondering, did you leave something out?? is there any infidility occuring in your marriage?

as FH says, if what you are looking for is some help in saving your marriage, we can assit you in that area. but it will take work and dedication. that is why he says you have to CHOOSE to commit to that work first.