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Child Before Marriage
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I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'll try it here. Basically, I've been married for almost 2 years. Everything has gone well so far and we don't have any children. However, about 4 years ago I had a one night stand with a girl who became pregnant, despite our use of BC. I wasn't sure it was mine and after a few conversations, we never really talked again. But I still thought about it all the time and recently I saw pictures of the child and it is undeniably mine. I want to do the right thing and take responsibility, but I'm afraid that my wife, family, and friends will disown me for not telling them earlier. Any thoughts on the best way to handle this situation?
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I am sorry I wish I could give you some advice. ALl i can say is PRAY and GOD will show you the way.

My prayers are with you.

BS(me) 27 WS (H) 34 Married 6yrs. Together 9yrs. Stepson-16 Stepson-10 my son-6 OC #1 (G) - 2 OC #2 (G) - 1 DD-#1 6/21/04' #2 7/5/05
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I saw pictures of the child and it is undeniably mine.


Well ... it is entirely deniable until you get DNA proof.

But in the meanwhile, tell your wife you suspect you may have fathered a child prior to marriage.

Talk about it. What's the point of marriage if you can't discuss important things?

POJA this with your wife. Come together to make a mutual decision.

If you both agree to check this out, go through an attorney. Do not call the child's mother.

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Pepperband #1559645 01/10/06 10:19 PM
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I agree that you need to come clean w/ your wife.

And definitely get a paternity test.

How did you see pictures of the child?

Married 5 years. Together almost 14 years. Age 30 DDay March 2004 OC Born June 2004 2nd Dday Feb 2005 My daughter was born 7/22/05.

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