Hi, I am new user here and hope to get some good advice.

I am on the wrong side of the fence trying to make things right. I am newly married and already have strayed and had an affair.

I slept with a woman we were both friends with 2 times. I am still not sure why I did it, but I am digging deep within myself to figure it out. I started seeing a counselor today and hopefully if I can get into a marriage counselor with my health insurance we can both go. Otherwise I will have to find another source of income so we can go.

This is all very recent, my wife is torn up and I can only try to console her but it is not working. Nor do I think it should, I screwed up. But she feels like there is no where to turn. She doesn't want to goto friends and family incase we stay together. She doesn't want to involve them. Most of all, if we are together, she doesn't want them hating me.

All I do right now is promise I will get help, promise I will do anything it takes, and promise I will try to make it right. That's all I can do. I am crying nonstop for being such an idiot. This is easily the best relationship I have ever been in and she is great with my son who lives with me full time. She is his mom.

I guess I am looking for any advice on rebuilding. I know I did wrong, I fully admit it. I am willing to get help. I am wondering what else I should do... I think this might be over, but I need to make sure she knows it is not her fault.

Thank you for listening.

Hi Jfedd,

Sorry for the circumstances that bring you here. You might want to try General Questions II as it has a lot more traffic than here.

Please try and get your wife here too so we can help her. We love repentant wayward spouses around here!

Also print out the infidelity FAQ's on this site, get the book His Needs, Her Needs and surviving an affair. You just don't know how much this can help you and your wife.

Blessings.