Recently I have also read one of Joyce Meyer’s books: “Beauty for Ashes” but I would like to read her books “How to Hear From God” and “Battlefield of the Mind” too. I can’t remember her exact words, but in “Beauty for Ashes” Joyce said the guidance of the Holy Spirit (to determine God’s will in your life) is always gentle (like a ‘gentle touch’) and that the Holy Spirit will never work in a way which will make you feel pressured or “forced” to do something or make certain choices (or refused to make certain choices/actions). No, rather the Holy Spirit will work in a gentle way and will give peace of mind that a certain action/choice is according to God’s will. When it's the right time to do something or make a certain choice AND if it's according to God's will, one will definately experience peace of mind. If one feel unsure, confused or pressured to do something (or feel pressured to NOT do something or carry trough with a certain action), it’s most probably NOT the voice of the Holy Spirit speaking and probably NOT God’s will for one's life or not the right time to make a choice about something yet. And it’s important to remember that the will of God and the guidance of the Holy Spirit will NEVER be in contrast with Script and in contrast with God’s teachings & principals. So, always before one do something or make a certain choice, first determine if it’s according to Script and God’s teachings and commandments. It helps to ask oneself: "What would Jesus do in this situation?"

And regarding your own personal situation life2short – God do allow divorce in certain situations & circumstances and yours is one of them. Therefore, whether you decide to leave your M or not, neither choice will be in contrast with Script although I agree with ForeverHers that your M in it's current state don't honor God at all. Therefore, I believe that your M in it's current state is NOT the will of God...unless your H become repentant and start living according to God's will in your M too. Maybe it will help you to read this thread on Biblical Divorce and Remarriage. Especially pay attention to the part on "Biblical Divorce and Remarriage" I've copied and pasted from a website (on my 2nd post on this thread). Its very long, but worth reading.

I want to "Let go and let God" but have such a hard time. I pray and truly want to know His will for my life. People have asked me what advice I would give my child in this situation. I would say "leave". But, still I waffle.
I too worshipped my H and was totally crushed with the A and with all that has happened since. I believe God allows trouble to make us lean on Him and draw us closer. I believe satan brings storms into our lives to move us away from God and make us question Him.
My problem is I don't know how to distinguish between what's of God and what's of satan.
If you take all the junk and baggage of life out of my situation my H and I get along okay. When you add life back into the mix it falls apart.
His kids will always be his kids as will mine for me. That's a major problem in our siutation. But there's also the A. I told no one. I was so ashamed of the fact that he did that and I stayed in it. I want no one to know and, to my knowledge, no one does except some of his family. The OW was his sister's co-worker and his sister encouraged the A.
There are times I am so convinced that I need to end it that if I could sign papers and end it that day, it would be over. There are times I get a glimpse of the man I fell in love with and it kills me to think of not being in his life anymore.
I depress myself!!!

Lifes2short,

I'll keep you in my thoughts, this is a rough ride, but you will get through it! There is great advice on this site, and plenty of us who know what you are feeling.

Pray for strength in your own heart and mind. You will get through this.

-sad

I know I will. It's incredibly sad when you think about all the pain that is represented by this website but, there seems to be alot of hope, too.
I think my situation's bad until I read some of the posts and my heart aches fof what I know they're going through.

The encouragement helps so much.

Thanks.