This is a new thread. {old one: I WOULD GIVE MY LAST BREATH TO SAVE THIS MARRIAGE} After reading the replys from some of you I realized that no matter what happens between him and I, I need to move forward. I spent a week reading and undrestanding LB's, now I'm working on SD's and WOW has that an eye opener. I printed out each of the LB's and gave him a copy with the hopes he is intrusted in trying to work things out. But the light hit me the other day and I told him the only way this won't work is if he gave up. I told him I could only fix myself and WE could only fix our marriage together! I have joined an anger management group as that has been an issue "on my part" Tuesday I finely start a new job :-) and I am trying to get an exercise reg. going. I realize I can not push him in the direction I want him to go, I need him to see that right now I can do without him. I'm not dating, going to the bars or even hanging with most of the people I would normally be with. I'm just not intrusted, right now I'm only intrusted in fixing me and if he likes what he see's and is intrusted in this program and putting forth his own effort to see his flaws and partisapate then what happens/happens. Yes I'm scared that I'm going fail and that he may move on in the opsite direction, but that's life. As long as I contuine with this program and work on me, maybe I won't make the same mistakes again and that's my goal right now!

No this was not a legal marriage paper is paper, we had an agreement, we wrote our own vows and excepted each other as husband & wife in the eyes of our friends, family and God.

Me: 40 never married for real.

He: 50 married twice and both left him 4 other men.

2nd Annv. would be 3/13/06 but seperated 3 monts ago, still see each other and try to talk but most the time ending in a fight <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> maybe I found this program to late and maybe not who know's, It's a new year and I'm going to make the best of it happen 4 ME......Boo