Let me assure you and your wife that with you full admission and trying you can make it work. I only wish I were so lucky, my husband is the wandering spouse, just finishing a 9 year affair by starting another. You need to understand how worthless you made her feel doing what you did...this is from my heart, one that knows. If my husband would agree to no contact and I mean absolutely no contact with the other woman, be loving and supportive (as you seem to be doing), and tell me if or when the other woman contacts him, and would talk to me about it. Search you soul for what made you do this, was it an emotional need or just a sexual thing? Talk to her about it as much as she wants to. I understand not going to family, sometimes that is the worst thing you can do is you are willing to try and work it out. Her family would hold her dear to their heart but might interfere in the recovery process. I would be glad to talk to her and encourage her any way I could if she loves you and is just scared. You need to be accountable to all time you are away from her and open to answering any questions she may have. Her heart is broken and her world is shattered. I know. I admire you realizing what you've done and the effort to make it right. Try seeking some counseling through local churches even. I don't know your religious belief, but if you are of the Christian faith, read about David. If you are of the Christian faith you may be experencing some struggle between good and evil. I believe turning to God can help you to stay straight. Tell her she isn't alone, I will pray for you two. God bless.......Demaris
