Believer -we have no idea how long these thing will last -he does telphone reapir with a big company. He is on the raod all day long. He is also one of the best they have and I am not bragging he is just the type that can fix anything.
I have always been proud of him and spoke that very often to him and others.
Lemmon -get some sleep. 34 hrs! I could not last 12. He is not good at writing and prefers the phone. I believe this time it needs to be written. I let him talk to her before I found MB. I truely believe everything they tell you here is the best. If he truely loves me which he has said over and over that he deeply loves me. I believe this revalation came after OW's haircut and dye job -he woke up when he looked at her. Made him see the light and decided he was a fool.( mind you this is in my mind) His statement of her looking so OLD really hit me. This is not something I had ever seen with him. He was angry with her!!!!!! I was in shock and thought it funny that the beast was released on her. Since I am beautiful and getting the hugs, kisses and hand holding out in public ect. Just like he used to be. So I know he did see her around Christmas -was depressed for a week or 2 and now is like the guy I married. I am glad she saw the man he had become around here. It makes me chuckle. But I do not like the lies -the twisitng of the truth ect. I just want the honesty back and the open R we always had be this dam A. I want my best friend back.

It sounds like he is getting better. Maybe you can just give it some more time.

maybe - I would like to just have some fun this wkend. You know enjoy the love he is showing me. Like a date or something. He said last night he thinks this site is not helping me very much. I have not told him I come on here for a long time. Makes me wonder if someone is reading my posts and telling him. I wonder if he is. If you are Honey - HI!!!!!!!Come on and join me here. Maybe we could talk here.

That would be fun - just a break from it all. Too bad he won't post here.

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Hmmm, sounds just like my STBX. When she's sweet she is very sweet, and when she is bad she is horrid. Cruel horrid. Problem is that I never know which one will wake up in the morning.

I don't know if that is what is happening to you or not. But it sounds like he is behaving erratically. Good one week and bad the next. And that lack of stability will drive you crazy. You should be able to count on your spouse ...

You think it is finally coming around when he is good, and curse him for messing up when he is bad. Like LM is fond of saying, "somepeople don't get it, and they don't get that they don't get it."

Work on your boundry issue. And keep venting here instead of with him.

Hope you have fun this weekend.

My H no contact letter was only one sentence written on a tiny sheat of notepad paper in my purse. I had made him switch cell phones with me and was searching his work when she called and then hung up when I answered. I was furious. I demanded the note be written emediatly. That day I also found out about the will and found clothes that she had bought him that he didn't bring home. There was a new pair of cowboy boots that he brought home, said his kids bought for him and I was surprised because I didn't think they could afford them. That clicked for me too and he admitted that lie. If I confronted him with facts he would admitt even if I was going on gut but acting like I knew for a fact. It was quite a day. I took the clothes and the note to our pastor. The clothes and boots got donated to cherity. The pastor took the note to her personally at her work. He told her he was working with us. My H rather bitterly sais that was the last time she would talk to him. I'm sure by the things he has said and his attitude that he tried. I hear that she is living with someone else now. I'm not at all sure that my H hasn't found someone else to take care of his needs though. We haven't had sex in 5 months and he acts like he doesn't care. The letter was effective in ending contact but forcing the letter did not change his attitude or effort for our marriage.

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