Hi, I am looking for an article I read a couple of weeks ago. Knight in Shining Armor Syndrome, I think it was called. Not sure if it was in general questions, been reading articles in most all the infidelity boards, general questions, just found out, OC and recovery. Can someone point me in the right direction to this article?

Thanks,

sleepless

Don’t mean to be a pain, am still looking for this article and having no luck with search–although am find lots of other great articles posted by posters. If anyone knows whereabouts of and or any related articles to this syndrome/theory could you please point me in the direction. I read it two weeks or so back but did not share it with fwh and he now wants to read it. Thanks much.

Was this an actual article (like from an outside MB source), or a posting thread? I'm usually really good at finding stuff if you can remember any more details about it. Was there much discussion about it?

Hi,

(O wow, thought I responded to this. sorry post got lost)

Thank you for your response Dobie. It was actually an article that was clipped and pasted and or rewrote into a post. I have been trying to find it here and with a engine search. Found a book on Amazon that does cover the topic. It is syndrome, that I understand in my reading of makes some susceptible to A(s). Kinda like the Cinderella/Waif come and rescue me Syndrome and what the attraction is for ( men with Knight in Shining Armor syndrome) and or why they feel a need to rescue them.

I am still on the phase of trying to uncover why fwh A happened since he is trying to convince me he has only ever loved me--at least to his recollection. I read this article and though wow this fits my fwh to a T. We have done the his needs and her needs and love busters lists and the only thing he can find fault with--and at that, I was actually the one who found fault with myself was angry outburst, but these did not start until he started to lie and not come home etc. Proir to the A we were best freinds, business partners and parents together. I can admit that it does seem as if we were growing apart. Over the course of the last three years I became independant of him in many ways ( we were at a point in our marriage were I could afford to pursue my own dream outside of our business which was his dream) but it still seems as if it really was an out of the blue thing. Of course I am sure many others can say they have been were I am at. But I do wonder if my indepedance/ need of him or lack there of contributed.


Thanks again,

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...;page=7#2901889

I think this is the post you are looking for. If not, there was another one, too. I'll keep looking for it.

You know I am so much the same way. I finally had to stop to trying to figure out why. Mine also said he never stopped loving me. He told the OW he loved me and that we had a good marriage. But, it still happened.

I'll keep lookig for the other one, too.

blessings

I found a Shirley Glass one from a few months ago that mentions it.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...rue#Post2870324

I thought there was another one MB forums where someone had talked about this, but I couldn't find it.

Thank you ladies. The first link lead me to what I was looking for. After reading it I realized there is a second post I am still looking for that goes more indepth into the syndrome. I also appreciated The Glass article. Thanks much for your time and effort.

Move forward, though you didn't mention it, I do think that this is something I will need to move forward with too ( no pun intended <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.I just have this inferno need to understand, even though my better judgement tells me I more than likely never will. I do think I am going to order the book to get some more insight.

Hugs,

I understand the pun- my screen name is because my FWS just kept saying we have to move forward.

My FWS has always been the 'hero' type. I know that was part of it. Now I just try to let him be my hero. Now, if he would be Captain Take Out the Trash <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Bumping this up for numberonemom and harmonie....

go into the links for the Shirley Glass article