Hey all, it's me again.
I need some advice, as always, and you guys seem to know what you're talking about, so here goes.
As you know, I'm having hubby followed next week on his business trip, because I have some suspicions. I'm afraid I'm going to end up heartbroken, but I have got to put my mind at ease, one way or another. Innocent, or guilty.
If I find out there is another woman, how should I go about approaching the subject with him? Let me explain: The night I'm having him followed will be his first night out of town. He won't be home the next night either, but the following. He always calls me at least once a day to talk... should I say something over the phone? (You know I'll want to out of anger and hurt.) Should I wait until I see him in person?
Another question: What if there's not proof of adultery, but he's going out to this club (which almost inevitably will happen) and gets drunk, stays out all night, and dirty dances with other women? That's not exactly "proof of adultery"... but it would hurt a whole lot just the same, since this is so out of character (at least around me) for him. Should I give him an ultimatum in this case?
Only a few more days left until I will prove him to be honest or a liar... pray for me, guys. I can barely function around here. I'm so afraid.

1st of all you need to calm down. Maybe you shouldn't have all this info. You need to have it but can you truly keep your mouth shut so that you can use this info wisely?

Go read Love must be tough but Dr James Dobson.

Then come back and post your plan. Pray for a clear mind and calm heart. You need that plus a lot of patience when you play with this kind of fire.

L.