I have been married to my husband for 3 years. We have a 2 y/o son together. Our marriage has been rocky and high stress from the get-go. I am very unhappy being married to him and I don't see it getting any better. The only reason I am still with him is because of our child. I WANT to stay married, but only for him. I find it REAL REAL hard to do it sometimes. But, I want to do the best for my son. He might not always see me happy, but he has a mom and dad right? I don't know what to do. I don't want him to have a broke home.... but I am so unhappy.

Anyone else staying for the kids?

lots of people do...

A lil' more info... Any adultery, physical abuse, etc.?

Are you and/or your H overly involved in alchohol or drugs?

Are you a Christian? Is your H?

Is this your 1st M? Is it his?

Have you read the articles that have been linked-to by various posters about unhappy marriages after 5 years?

Is your H interested in being married to you?

A home can sometimes be broken when the parents are still married.

Your son also deserves to see his mom happy, doesn't he?

Don't you deserve to be happy?

Add to that,
The kids will get over it ..
We haven't really been married in a long time ...
We'd be better off apart ...
The kids are resiliant ...
You'll still be their father ...


Those are all things my WW said to me Joe ... while she was in her affair. If there isn't physical abuse or substance abuse she should to make the effort to build a happy marriage and a happy family.

Way to little information to give real advice or comments on.

Doesn't that little boy deserve to have a father; A father that doesn't just get to visit?

Isn't divorcing for those reasons just teaching your child that marriage is a disposable institution. If your not happy right now, get a divorce?

Like I said, to little information. However, a marriage of only 3 years ... with a new child ... that causes major changes in a relationship and that deserves work not abandonment.

You've only been married 3 years. Do you think you will have a better chance building a happy marriage while you are looking for a man as a single mom. Do you think there will be lots of men looking for a "ready made" family. (or is there someone you already have in mind?)

I believe your best chance at happiness is with the man you took your marriage vows with, the father of your son. But you have to take some responsiblity of building the kind of marriage you want. And try to bring your H along with you. It certainly can be done.

Would you want to be married to someone who wanted a divorce if they became unhappy? Or would you want someone who kept his commitment and worked towards a happy, fulfilling marriage.

As I mentioned above, when children are brought into a marriage the dynamics of everything changes and frequently leads to some marital discourse.

The marriage vows I took did not say "I take this woman as long as I'm happy" and if I become unhappy I can just "unmarry her"

However, those apparently are the vows my STBX took. She reserved the right to do whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted, without regard for the damage she did to the family or her marriage, not to mention herself. She choose to cheat, lie, steal, and use drugs. All in the endeavor to "make herself happy".

Read willingtowait2's thread for the answer.
Cherished