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I was just watching Dr. Phil today and it was about getting in touch with old flames and such.
He had his old HS flame on there. They were talking about just seeing how there old flames were doing.
Now does anyone else have a problem with this or is it just me?
Dr. Phil should know just by his work that meeting up with old flames is just asking for trouble. Of course classmates.com was the sponser for this show.
Affairs waiting to happen with stuff like this happening....
DR. PHIL you should know better ..........
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
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WH living with OW since July 05
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It's all about ratings and $$$. Nothing else.
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I can't watch this show at all -he will have couples back to talk about their A's.
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OW 2yrs, he worked with her and found secret e-mail account.The first cut is the deepest.
just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
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"It's all about ratings and $$$. Nothing else."
Having a show with a theme like that seems to prove this statement, for sure, considering how many shows Dr. Phil has had about A's.
"he will have couples back to talk about their A's."
Maybe he's trying to generate problems for future shows! Byuck.
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My wife's affair was precipitated by an initial contact on classmates.com...
However, websites don't have affairs, people do. lol
Mr. Wondering
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Of course classmates.com was the sponser for this show. That IS awful...classmates.com was the "proud sponsor" of my own A...that's how OM was able to contact me...ARGH!!! Mrs. W
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Mr. Wondering -
My A was with an old BF. We got in touch again through a website, also.
"However, websites don't have affairs, people do. lol"
Very good point, and, of course, you are right. Adults' behavior is not the website's fault.
It seems certain that Dr. Phil could see the danger in getting old flames together, though.
God bless,
Rose
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I liked today's episode. He didn't "get old flames together", other than bringing his own old flame onto the show for a few minutes. He counseled one couple who were at odds because the husband's old GF's would ask him out for coffee and tell him not to bring his wife. Dr. Phil told him he needed to set better boundaries and not meet with these women without his wife present. He also talked with a woman who wanted to get back with her old flame, who had moved on. Dr. P helped her understand her faulty approach to relationships, and made some good points about pursuing/distancing in a relationship. Then the last segment was 2 old flames who found each other after 60 years (I think) and married. So I don't know about next week, but he didn't bring married old flames together on this episode.
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Rose... LOL...I knew that someone was gonna think I meant that classmates.com was responsible for my actions...classmates set the "events" in motion(and from what I understand they have been instrumental in many other A's as well)...My own culpability I am fully aware of, TRUST ME!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> BTW... It was actually, me MRS. Wondering that posted that...Mr. Wondering and I just might have to consider a name change...that mix up seems to happen a lot...along w/ Mr./Mrs. W andering, Mr./Mrs. Wonder ful etc...we really don't care...always makes us grin... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Take Care... Mrs. W
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I wrote him about this show several weeks ago. In fact, I posted my disappointment with him here on the forum. I had seen on his site where he was looking for folks wanting to see their old flames.
I told him I knew of several affairs, including my FWS's that started by just wanting to 'see' their old flames.
The MOW in our case must have done a search for him on a search engine because she found his photo on a site because he is on the Board for an organization. I wish that would have been enough 'seeing' him.
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Rose...no worries. I just spoke to Mrs. Wondering and she completely missed my post directly above hers. She must have cross posted. Her mix up, not yours.
Sorry,
Mr. Wondering
p.s.- my take ... affairs are somewhat a result of perfect timing. Two willing partners caught at a weak point in their lives/marriage willing to risk it all to escape into a fantasy relationship. Websites, cellphones and all means of instant communication and trackability just assist in the "alligning of the moons" to precipitate affairs. That means young couples today need more education than ever about the meaning of fidelity and how to prevent affairs and protect their marriages. Like it or not, today just about everybody is going to be easily contacted by any and all of their ex-boyfriends and girlfriends with a simple click of a few buttons. It is the cost of progress. We can bemoan the safer days of isolation but that would be niave. Progress also brings solutions. Just look at what MB means to all of us here. 10 years ago we all would have had to recover on our own in relative secrecy (whispering the word "affair" and "infidelity") and maybe once a week going to some counselor who probably didn't have the ability or resources to help anyway.
That being said...Classmates should provide a warning and a links to resources to alleviate some of the problems they knowingly yet indirectly cause.
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Yeah Rose...SO SORRY...How hilarious that I didn't realize you were actually quoting my own h above...I had a total "blonde moment"!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> DUH!!! Mrs. W
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Mr. and Mrs. W -
You two have me thoroughly confused, and I don't know what to say. LOL. In any case, don't ever worry about what I think. All is well.
God bless,
Rose
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We're just a couple of nuts Rose...IGNORE US!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Mrs. W
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