I am not new here. I was here 2 years ago when my husband chatted in Internet with different girls. And this chat growed to something more serious with one of the girls. He was going to go see her to Canada and he told me that he is going to go for a lasic surgery there. But I found out about it and told him to choose "He is not going there or we divorce". So he desided not to go.
I forgave him that time. Then again in about half a year I iscovered that he is talking to some girl from New York and wanting to meet her there while he goes to visit his mom.
I discovered it and said that if it happens again we definitely will divorce.
Now today I cought him chatting in AOL with girls. It looks like he bought a laptop without saying me about it and chatted there for several weeks. As soon as I saw him doing this he turned off the laptop. So I don't trust him anymore and don't have any wish to work things out with him. I have 2 children with him and one is on the way - will be born in February. So what would you advise me to do? Should I divorce because I promised it before?
He as usually saying that he will not do this anymore but how can you belive? If he lies to me about Internet there is a big chance he is lying to me about some actual meetings in our town.
He is saying he doesn't want a divorce and wants to work on our marriage but I don't have any trust left for him.
And he is doing this he says because he doesn't have enough sex with me. My opinion is that nothing gives permission to cheat in a marriage - no sex no other issues. If you are not happy about something you try to work things out or divorce and find something else. But not cheating secretly.
What do you think?

You are right, nothing gives a reason to cheat.

If he really is willing to do anything to fix the marriage, are you in counseling? Have you been in the past with him?

He could have a sex addiction.

I recommend you check out the following website:

http://www.xxxchurch.com

He may be lying to you... have you considered counseling with the Harleys thru MB? Jennifer really really helped us.

It all depends what he is willing to do, and how open he is willing to be, to rebuild trust. If he will acknowledge that he has a problem and is weak in this area. It is all not explained by not enough sex with you... that is more of a symptom than a cause.

Keep posting...
MSA