And the answers are kind of interesting, pretty close to what i thougt, and of course all of a sudden, EHarmony is sending me all these people, even with
Nudge emails to get me to pay. An of course, the other EHarmony person that is most interested in me has the same job as I do <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />(not interested!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> but there is something to birds of a feather flock together. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.
Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.
• Others showing genuine sincerity and acceptance impress you. You do not like a shallow expression of feelings or thoughtlessness of others. You will get along with most people you meet because you don't cause hostility.
• Others may see you as disciplined and self-controlled. You have seen the problems of being overly optimistic when planning to depend on others following through.
• You may be a matter-of-fact person who may be critical of the shortcomings of others who display a more emotional or outgoing side.
• You usually assume a cautious and reserved demeanor when meeting new people. Your relationships must grow naturally and in sincere ways. You will not confide in others readily because of your need for security.
• Because of your thoughtful nature, you need others to express sincere interest in you or the relationship. This offers the secure feeling that you seek.
• During times of stress or tension, you may withdraw inside yourself and appear as somewhat cool and aloof. You need to be alone when thinking through projects, problems or solutions.
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Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
• You may be somewhat reticent and retiring when with others, especially in a large group. As others grow louder, you may become quieter. You value control of emotions, and are more reflective than rowdy.
• Some people may inaccurately perceive you as not liking people. You may be misread by others, because you approach social situations with logic and objectivity, judging others by their competence--you may sometimes be misread by others.
• You may want to base relationships on a nonemotional respect for each other's abilities, and base your level of trust on directness and straightforwardness.
• Because of your need to be quiet rather than rambling, you are somewhat introspective about events and activities. You may not communicate readily and rapidly with others, but this does not mean you don't support others.
• You are usually astute in social situations because you take little at face value, will listen carefully and accurately, and will watch others carefully.
• You attempt to influence others not by showing great emotion, but by appealing to the logical nature of people. Those who are more emotional and excitable may sometimes ignore your approach.
• You tend to listen rather than talk. You may place a premium on display of emotions. As a result, "reading" you at times may be difficult.
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
• Respect quiet demeanor.
• If you disagree, organize your thoughts before confronting your partner.
• Approach in an honest, sincere manner.
• Provide time to analyze the data before making a decision.
• Use a logical and unemotional approach.
• Use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
• Support principles.
• Use a thoughtful approach.
• If you agree, follow through with your end of the agreement.
• Minimize risks by providing assurances for participation.
• Show patience, especially when drawing out information.
• Have facts and ideas in a logical order.
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
• You don't tend to get distracted by superficial issues.
• You are skilled at finding practical solutions to complicated situations.
• You are good at making certain that even small details are taken care of.
• You tend to be the "Anchor of Reality" in highly emotional situations.
• You tend to have very high values.
• You are good at "troubleshooting" potential problems in a relationship.
• You generally take pride in being a strong community member.
• You tend to set and maintain very high standards for yourself.
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
• Time and opportunity to weigh pros and cons of decisions.
• Time to react to new ideas and sudden change.
• Social recognition of your accomplishments.
• Recognition of skills and ability.
• Partners who practice listening and participation.
• Equal relations with others.
• Support of your ideas and dreams.
• A predictable environment with few surprises that are not "planned."
• Activities involving contact with many people.
• An environment free from conflict or hostility.
• Popularity.
• Sound relationships which form naturally, and are not contriving or scheming.
No person can be fully described or defined by a few short sentences. However, here are several of the most important characteristics revealed by your eHarmony Compatibility Profile that you should keep in mind as you search for your ideal mate:
Some of your ideal mate's strongest personality characteristics are:
She doesn't generally like to take on big projects unless there is a clear reward in sight.
She likes it when she can do something the right way the first time.
She likes to keep abreast of what's happening in the world.
On occasion, she likes to push her friends into action.
Some important qualities that your ideal partner brings to the relationship are:
She avoids being pessimistic, even when problems arise.
She feels that she has a lot to share with the right person.
She is usually open-minded and flexible.
She has lighthearted moments that help her see and share the positive side of life.
Important goals and values for your ideal mate in a relationship are:
She likes spending time with family and relatives.
Family ties are important to her.
Although she probably won't be strongly religious, it may be important to her that she shares her core spiritual beliefs with her life partner.
Personal values are important to her.
Social Orientation describes how much of your behavior is motivated by the desire to get along with and be liked by other people, as well as how much is driven by the desire to be seen as an effective problem solver and self sufficient. People with a strong External Orientation place a high value on communicating their thoughts and feelings with other people. People with a strong Internal Orientation place a high value on individual effectiveness, competence and autonomy The dimensions that we assess as part of your Social Orientation are Conflict Management, Character, Vitality and Security, Communication Style, Kindness and Autonomy.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Communication: Your ideal companion is a woman who can express herself and also listen to others. Friends and family may describe her as the kind of person who isn't overbearing and doesn't talk too much. She'll enjoy talking to you but won't pry too deep if you're not in the mood for conversation.
Kindness: Your ideal mate is the kind of person who wants to be there for you when you need her. She will try to be thoughtful to you, even if she doesn't always know exactly what you want. She'll be respectful and generally won't demand more from you than you are willing to give.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Character: Your ideal mate isn't going to let other people's misfortunes get her down. Yes, homeless people need help and charities do lots of good work, but that's not necessarily anything that concerns her. She takes care of herself and won't feel the need to try and solve all your problems. Your relationship will be based more on mutual respect than a need for emotional support.
Autonomy: You will be best matched with someone who doesn't think you need to know everything about each other. She likes spending time with friends but doesn't need to check up on them every day. Her friends describe her as the kind of person who'd rather wait for someone to volunteer information instead of trying to pry details out.
Vitality and Security: You will be most compatible with a woman is comfortable with a future that's somewhat undefined. She's self-reliant and isn't looking for emotional support. Friends see her as someone who isn't looking to be rescued; she can take care of herself. She generally focuses on short-term goals rather than things that are years down the road.
Conflict Resolution: You'll be happiest with a woman who tries to avoid conflict altogether. When she does have a disagreement, she tries to keep the peace instead of adding fuel to the fire. Resolving the argument is generally more important to her than being right, but she will stand up for herself.
The Extraversion scale assesses how you feel when you are around people. Extroverts are generally comfortable at the center of attention. They rarely feel a need for "alone time" and are almost always eager to meet new people. Introverts, on the other hand, avoid the spotlight when they can, approach many social gatherings with hesitation and relish time spent with good friends whom they know well. While most people exhibit a mix of Introvert and Extrovert qualities based on what kind of social situation they are in, people who are strongly Extroverted often place the largest value on having many friends and making new friends easily. In contrast, people who are strongly Introverted generally place the highest value on having a few very deep and meaningful friendships. The dimensions of your profile which are associated with Extraversion are Emotional Energy, Sociability, Adaptability, Humor, Romantic Passion and Dominance.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Humor: Your ideal mate is the kind of woman who is funny and interesting. Sometimes, she likes telling jokes, making people laugh with things like one-liners or satirical observations about friends and family. But she doesn't need to be a constant one-woman show.
Adaptability: Your ideal mate likes to find new ways to deal with old challenges. She can think up creative solutions to a problem but doesn't discount the tried-and-true answers. She's the kind of person who can never seem to do something the same way twice. She can accept new approaches to problems when the old solutions have stopped working.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Emotional Energy: You'll be happiest with a woman who's outgoing and vivacious but doesn't need to always be on the move. She'd generally rather do something than talk about it, whether it's a new hobby or a project at work.
Romantic Passion: Your ideal mate is a woman who likes to focus on the things of substance in a relationship, not on mushy feelings. She wants to spend time with her partner, but that could just as easily mean taking a hike as fixing a romantic dinner. She might think things like Valentine's Day are somewhat contrived romantic situations, which is probably a relief to someone like you.
Dominance: You are best suited to someone who doesn't take competition to extremes. She likes to win but doesn't need to do so at all costs. She is aggressive when the situation warrants it - such as when vying for a promotion or playing tennis in front of a crowd - but can accept a loss with grace.
Sociability: You'll be happiest with a woman who doesn't go out of her way to meet new people. She's the kind of person who will wait for others to introduce themselves to her. She tends to avoid large parties where she doesn't know anyone. She's not all that fond of mingling, instead preferring time spent with close friends.
Openness refers to a person's willingness to experience new and creative ideas. People who score low on Openness tend to place a high value on tradition and belonging to a group. People who score high on Openness tend to place a high value on imagination and individualism. Extreme scores on Openness also often distinguish between people who enjoy thinking in symbols and abstractions to people who prefer ideas which are clear and concrete. The dimensions of your profile that we consider as part of Openness are Artistic Passion, Curiosity and Intellect.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Curiosity: You will be best matched with a woman who is eager to learn about things that interest her. She likes to learn about the world by trying new things, like exotic foods or vacations. She is well-rounded and well-versed in subjects that intrigue her. But she doesn't feel the need to know everything.
Intellect: Your ideal mate is knowledgeable and well-read. She has varied interests but isn't driven to be an expert on everything. She values education but isn't consumed by it. She doesn't need to be the smartest person in the room.
Artistic Passion: You are best suited to the kind of woman who can appreciate others' creativity. She likes art galleries but probably doesn't get to them very often. She likes things like literature and fine art but probably spends her spare time on other pursuits. It's possible she would visit some of the world's top museums while on vacation but then neglect the ones in her hometown.
Physicality separates people who enjoy being physically energetic and active from those who are uncomfortable or dislike engaging in sports or strenuous activity. Some people push life to the limit, scaling mountains or competing in triathlons. People with a less demanding sense of Physicality enjoy looking at mountains more than climbing them. The dimensions of your profile which comprise the most important aspects of your Physicality are Appearance, Physical Energy and Sexual Passion.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Sexual Passion: You'll be most fulfilled by the kind of woman who believes sex is an important part of a great relationship - but not the only part. She is looking for physical chemistry with a man, the kind of spark that comes from genuine romantic attraction. However, she also appreciates that there is more to a "real relationship" than sex.
Physical Energy: You are best suited to someone who likes to stay active but doesn't overdo it. She likes to stay in shape, but it isn't always at the top of her list of things to do. Friends describe her as the kind of person who signs up for a gym membership but then has to remind herself to actually go. She's generally energetic, but if a day or two go by without a workout, she's not going to complain.
Appearance: You are most compatible with a woman who wants to look good but doesn't obsess over it. She will appreciate the time and effort you put into your appearance and be happy with the end result. Ultimately, however, she is more concerned with who you are than what you look like.
Goal Orientation refers to the drive to plan for the future versus the urge to live in the moment. People who score low on Goal Orientation are generally spontaneous and free spirited. They are likely to act on their first impulse and worry about the consequences afterwards and place a high value on being clever and lucky. People who score high on Goal Orientation, on the other hand, are more driven to think about future consequences before acting, place a high value on being wise and cautious and like to always put their best foot forward. The dimensions of your profile that relate to your Goal Orientation are Industry, Ambition, Organization and Education.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Education: Your ideal mate is a woman who wants her partner to be her intellectual equal. She's passionate about ideas, so she is looking for someone who is interested in discussing things like religion, politics, ethics or science. If a man is unable to converse intellectually, she generally loses interest.
Ambition: You will be happiest with a woman who strives for success but won't let it dominate her life. She generally does not judge herself by what others think, but she might sometimes measure her success by things like having the right car or a prestigious job. She thinks things like family and friends are more important than achievements.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Industry: You are most compatible with someone who works hard but avoids bringing too much stress and worry home. She likes to stay busy, but she doesn't need to fill every moment of every day with some task or chore. She's generally efficient, persistent and productive, but she doesn't obsess over making lists of things to do or accomplish.
Organization: Your ideal mate is known for her spontaneity. She isn't the type of woman who holds fast to a rigid plan for each day. She'll do one thing until something better comes along and then take advantage of what life throws her way. Her willingness to embrace life can be fun at time, but also means she's a bit scattered.
While day-to-day events play a major role in our feelings, there are deep seated patterns of emotion that underlie our personality and stretch across the span of our lives. These patterns are considered your Emotional Temperament. People who score high on Emotional Temperament are generally upbeat about life, are slow to get upset in the face of minor setbacks or disappointments. People who score low on Emotional Temperament are more likely to experience feelings such as anxiety, anger and depression on a regular basis. The dimensions of your profile that comprise your Emotional Temperament are Mood Management, Self Concept, Emotional Status, Anger Management and Obstreperousness.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Anger Management: You will be happiest with a woman who controls her temper. Generally speaking, she has a long fuse. When she does get mad, she doesn't take it out on others or blame them for her frustration.
Self Concept: Your ideal match is someone who won't change herself just to fit in. She believes in herself and doesn't look to others for approval. Other people see her as self-assured and well adjusted.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Emotional Status: You are best suited to a woman who is grounded and composed. She doesn't overreact to things like financial setbacks or problems at work. She is self-possessed and generally doesn't have extreme mood swings. Her friends probably describe her as someone who never seems out of control. She's satisfied with her life.
Obstreperousness: Your ideal mate is someone who isn't afraid to stand up for her opinions, but doesn't always feel the need to do so. You need someone who has beliefs and confidence strong enough to match your own. However, you will not do well with someone who needs to dominate every conversation and win every argument. You will do best with someone who knows when to speak her mind, and when to just go along with the people around her.
Mood Management: You are most compatible with someone who avoids taking bad moods out on others. She knows that everyone has their moody days, so she won't overreact when you're irritable. When she's in a foul mood, she'll usually make sure she doesn't take it out on others.
Many significant ingredients, like upbringing, family goals and spirituality combine to form a person's values and beliefs. Whatever form they take, your values are one of the most powerful determinants of your behavior. Values are also play a large role in both who we feel comfortable being around, and who we find attractive. Dissimilarity in values generally causes discomfort or awkwardness in social situations. Although close friends, family and loved ones can often have one or two stark contrasts in their values, this is made possible by a greater number of shared values, backgrounds and experiences that provide a framework of comfort and similarity. When building an intimate relationship, establishing shared values early on is key to long term success. The dimensions that we consider as part of you Personal Values are Traditionalism, Spirituality, Family Goals and Altruism.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Family Goals: Your ideal mate doesn't want to start a new family. Her goals in a relationship are the same as yours: To find a partner who will value her as much as she values him.
Family Background: Your ideal mate will probably understand if your relationship with your family is distant, uninvolved or filled with conflict. Her own family relationships are sometimes marked by tension, miscommunication or anger, but she has learned to adapt.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Spirituality: Your ideal mate is someone who is probably either involved in a religious community or who has an individualistic spiritual life. She's the kind of person who finds herself drawn on occasion to faith communities. She might attend services but may not be an active member of a congregation.
Traditionalism: You'll be happiest with a woman who considers herself a good person: She has strong values and her moral beliefs are an important part of who she is. She probably believes that values related to religion, country and family provide important general guidelines for life.
Altruism: Your ideal mate doesn't think it's her responsibility to fix society's ills. She isn't the type to volunteer for charitable efforts like mentoring at-risk youths. She's comfortable spending her free time in other ways.
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