I got a call from the one friend I have been telling my problems with. She told me the OMW that my WH was having a EA was not in town because she had some club meeting the whole weekend. I contacted the people that would know this and they told me that there is no meeting. I then tried to call my WH and I have not been able to get ahold of him. I then asked OMW nanny to try and get ahold of her and she could not. I then calmly told her what has been happening and what I think was happening now. My WH has a house all to himself this weekend. I think that is where she is. Nanny got mad. She said that OMW has been going to a frinds house alot to play video games but did not give a name. Plus she was on the internet alot. I must admit at this time I told myself I must tell people what has been going on. Even if I am making a mountian out of a mole hill I am sick to death that nobody new what was going on before. Even his boss who gave a NC order did not know why he gave it. He was just to do it by someone higher. I also felt that is OW has no right to teach my child sunday school and asked the preacher for her to step down. I was asked if I am trying to get my husband fired and I said "No his actions will do that for him" As for the OMW she will be question as soon as she returns from her"meeting" and I will be contacted on that. I need your support good or bad. I am not sure what to do. I thought he was just going through withdraw. HELP???!!!

Mhwag, you've got to find a way to calm yourself, if you're not already doing that. Remember, your children pick up on the tiniest of things. OMW = Other Man's Wife...don't you mean just OW?

Do you have any friend who could drive by the friend's house to see if your husband is there, and who else is also?

I am calm but just mad. I say OMW = Other Married Woman
No my WH has not shown any one where he is staying. He doesn't have many friends and the most are my friends to. The OW haas been caught in a lie and she will have to tell people where she really was. Her friends our mine also. This town is only about 5000 people and we go in the same circles. I just felt that was the time to stop feeling ashamed for what they our doing. I understand that I have no proof and am willing to stand up but I just have this feeling now.

Oh, okay. My bad. I didn't think enough about the acronym.

No one blames you for being mad. It proves you're human.

If you've been following willingtowait's thread, she used a GPS tracker to find out where her WH was going. Sounds like that could be a solution for you too.

I can't use a GPS because we are in Europe and they don't work as well here. I also just found out that she has been lieing to her H. How do you think I should handle that? Remember I have to deal with Military.

Darn, I thought the satellites for the GPS system were spread out all across the globe. Failing that, is there anyway, since it's a small town, a trusted friend could just drive around neighborhoods looking for your husband's car? That's last resort material, I guess, huh?

Time to expose again? I can't remember...have you spoken to OWH? Maybe you could talk to the Chaplain about the activities of his Sunday School teachers.

I would also talk to your husband's commander, but it won't do any good if you can't give him new information. They would, however, be very interested if information is developed that he is failing to obey an order. He'd probably get yanked back on base in a heartbeat. Him being in the military means he's on a shorter leash, not a longer one, but you have to locate him and find out what he's doing first.

Is this "Nanny" someone who can provide information?

Also, here is a website I ran across last night looking for something else. Isn't that always the case? Anyway, it might help to locate your husband's friend's off-base residence. Unfortunately, it might just give you the APO mailing address. I don't know of anyone who has used it, though I gave it to Eagle15 and he's said he'll investigate it. He hasn't done so yet.

http://www.militarysearch.org/

I have talked to the commander and I will be informing him when the "nanny" gives me information. I also know that my WH will be sents to the barracks and if his is found guilty of disobeying a direct order he will be yanked on a shorter leash. Sad to say if he wants to move back in I am not sure what my feelings would be. Also I will be finding out the house address this Monday from his friend. I will not be lied to. Many people now know about the lies and that is what I have be pushing on. I can't drive around beause WH is in a different small town but I don't even know which one.

Okay, you have the address thing covered then. I didn't know that. Well, that's the first step. Things may start opening up once you know that and nanny provides some info. <sigh> Not much you can do until Monday. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Anyone have ideas one how to handle if I find out if this weekend it true? I feel that I have the strength but the hope to see WH is gone right now. I hurt so much. The only thing I want to say to him is" I hope she is worth your family and career" I know that is a LB but that is the only thing running thru my head.

Oh, that's an LB, but probably okay to say, under the circumstances.

I caught WH and OW in bed doing it, and was completely calm. All I thought about was rushing back here and telling everyone. LOL

Yes that was what I wanted to to first but I needed to tell the people they have been lieing to first. Then I came here. I also have a friend that is scratching her head going " And you still want him back?" I told her yes and she will read the book SAA to help her understand what I am dealing with and why I am holding some hope.

Believer, I have questions now after you told me that. Where can I find your story? Before I start.

To all that have help support me through this. I must be getting better with handleing this because I feel that when the EA first came out I felt that WH could have died and it would not have hurt this much but when I found out that it might have gotten to a PA I some how felt a calm frustation that I was able to handle. Sleeping is still the only had part. I have finally told my friends and WH coworkers all that I know. I feel that my WH and OW were hiding under some cover because noone new about anything. WH told people we were haveing some small difficultes. LOL!!!
I am a bit scared/worried when this comes out on Sunday because I know the OW will crack under pressure from her brother. And my WH will be in HUGE trouble at work. I don't know what to say when he calls and he will. OW will call also. Any help in what to say please?

I have finially been in contact with OH and it has been very reveiling. We both can not get in touch with our spouses. OW has been caught in big fat lie. I feel sorry for OH because he is away from it all and has to do everything over the phone. Any ideas on what to say to him. I want to keep an open line but he is very hurt and angry and can only talk to me in very short times.

Can he get to this site? We can help him more than anyone.

I will tell him about it if he calls again. He is in Iraq right now, that is one of the reasons I feel for him. He is more stuck than I am. I am getting very nervous because OW should be getting home soon and her live in nanny is going to confront her with all her lies. I can only wait to see what happens.

Oh she will just deny everything.

Please tell the husband about this site. I think we can really help him.

OH just called me and he told me more of the lies he just found out. I did tell him about this site and he will see. He is having to deal with the BIG D-DAY where as I ahve felt that this was going to turn physical. If she denies it that is fine she will have to proove where she was because she is not where she said she would be. And there is only one place to do the thing she said she would be doing. All roads lead to PA. I have not been able to reach WH for over 24 hours and they have not been able to reach OW for same amount of time. OH is very tired and has gotten tired of all the lies. He is sick because the night before she left for her "trip" she said he loved him and would never sleep with anyone else and wants to work on the M. I feel so sad. My husband is opposite he want to see if he will miss me. Thoughts?????

I have told my Dad and he is very understanding of why I am holding on. OM called and I told him of this site. I feel for him because I told him all that has been happing and I guess his wife has been lie so much. I am getting very nervous and scared because I know all HE double hockey sticks is going to break anytime soon. I think I will take the DD's and go for a day trip tommorro. I have this feeling that I my have opened a can of worms but it is to late now. Right? I don't want to lose him but he is not him right now. OM just called again. He is very sick just like I was on first D-Day. I have been calm with screams only on the inside. Even with all the reading I have done here and in the books I still don't know all what is going to happen. I hope you guys have some info?

How does anyone deal when they find out that there other half has been lieing to everyone including there own childeren? I have not been able to sleep knowing this. I did not think he would go so far as to throw everything, family, friends, job away just for OW. I now in a very deep side. Nothing I know I can't handle but so so so hard. I sit here no thinking why, Why should I try? Why hurt myself any more? Why not cut him loose and be done with it? Why after all this do I still feel love for him? And why do I feel that could be the end of any love that I will have?