Hmmm, it was accomoplished, but they are still married???? How did that happen????

You are justifying again

Because first of all, he wants HER to be the ONE to end it...thus,making peace along the way. Secondly,the California courts seem to be slower than molasses on a winter day.

You say you aren't looking to destroy a family but you seem pretty vindictive toward her....

you know I'm beginning to think gloryb.com might be good for you. In case you don't know it is a site for The Other Woman, thus TOW.

You'll find lots of folks to help you justify there. You won't find it here.

Now,if you are really feeling guilty about the affair, and want to do what is right in the sight of God and the law, then yes, we are all more than willing to help you break this off and begin the healing process. However, if that is not what you want, you need to keep looking for place where you feel comfortable.

Actually i am feeling very comfortable right here..THANKS!!!

gloryb.com.........

If you are feeling so comfortable, you really must be a troll.

DO YOU MEAN LIKE SHREK OR FIONA.....I AM CONFUSED.

You are not going to get a stamp of approval here on MB. If you truly want help to end your affair help is here.

Otherwise, click the link below. You will find the support and justifications you seem to want there.

TOW/Gloryb

A troll is someone who posts on a site such as this one something that is so contradictory or something that is so contraversial as to get a huge discussion going.

That person is usually only doing it for the debate and is posting falsehoods.

I sincerely hope that is the case. Otherwise, you all three need to be in extensive counseling programs.

Or just type in gloryb.com, then click on the "pink board".

Trust me...all of us have been in enough lame counseling sessions....them two together....her alone...him alone...and me alone....Can you SEE how much it helps????? im not a troll!!!!!!!

gloryb.com.......(pink board)

From wikipedia.org: Troll

or

From urbandictionary.com: Troll
specifically, definition #2

Ashley, your posts make me sick to my stomach.

My STBX left me and our two children for the OW. They have used all the same lies and justifications that you are using here.

He told her he was unhappy in our M to get her to sleep with him. Then, as our M fell apart because he was having an affair, he used that as justification for leaving.

Most M are serviceable before an A. It's the A that makes them terrible.

You will not find happiness with this man. You are already deeply entrenched in an extremely unhealthy relationship. You mentioned in one of your other threads that you had offered him a friend of yours for sexual services when you were not around?

Are you off your head? What kind of future do you see here?

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Alph.

Ashly I was wondering if you have actually taken the time to read this websites section on the "lovers" perspective or in the OW/OM perspective.

Here's a link. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5037b_qa.html

Have you ever been cheated on Ashely?

Lady

Ashley,



This statement is so far from the truth it's disgusting.You are obviously not here to end the affair(cheat fest) and only want to spout off your justifications and rationalizations for what you are doing and my concern is that someone like you is here and may hurt other vulnerable posters.

Nothing we say is going to make any difference as you are clearly set in your position of being the other woman and do not want to change.I am going to report this thread(and the other one) to our moderators since it's clear you are not here for the right reasons.

O

The Lord rebuke you!!!!

Ashley,

I have not read all of your posts so I apologize if I ask something you have already answered. I think I read only the first 3-5 pages.

Anyway, my recommendation for you and your children,is that you step away, back off, go nc with this man. If you have children arrange for contact to go through a neutral party, so that he can see his children without involving you.

In 6 months, you will know more of the truth. You both have been and are being lied to and it will continue as long as you allow it, and even worse your children will be so negatively effected.

Even if this man leaves his wife and marries you, unless he gets help for his lack of communication skills and maturity, it will only be a matter of time before he cheats on you also.

My h didn't want to his hs sweetheart either and had plans to break up with her, but she got pregnant before he had a chance to (at 16 I believed this, how old are you if you dont mind me asking). I never went out with a married man intentionally as he lied and said he was divorce. The next day his wife found out and told me they were getting a divorce. I told him not to come back. He came back because he didnt have a place to live, and like a fool, I helped him look for a place and the rest is history---married 20 years.

I believed what he said because I wanted to believe what he said, just like you are doing now. You know what you are doing is WRONG, but you accept justification and rationalization so that you dont have to face what you are doing. It is so much easier when you can tell yourself, you case is different, special circumstances. But the simply truth is your case is not any different than anyone else's. Yes, the details may be a little different but the problem lies with the husband and you.

And unless each of you face the problem honestly and work on it, any r between the two of you is doomed.

No one makes this man do anything. He made the choice to commit adultery with you. He is perfectly capable of making the choice to divorce his wife. Yes, a d can be drug out and last several years, but has he even filed. No one can prevent him from filing for d.

My h and I were 'soulmates'. We married 8 months after his d was final.

And guess what, 19 years later, I find out that I have 2 alleged other children, ages 15 and 9. The 15 year old girl is so messed up it will be easy for a man to take advantage of her. The 9 year old boy, well only time will tell.

When his wife gets over the trauma of the betrayal and starts setting down some boundaries, odds are, he will honor them and you will be removed from the situation.

So, truly, for yourself, you should step back away and get out of their marriage.

He may love you, but obviously he doesn't love you enough to leave his wife, and even if he did, he will cheat on you.

He is cheating on you now if you really look at it. He is with his wife, sleeping with you both. Why would he ever think you require faithfulness?

Affairs are only for a season, and then real life happens.

I wish you the best and I think the best is for you to remove yourself before you get hurt any more.