What to do?

I’ve been married for four years together with W for almost six. She had an A last summer. She dropped him in August.

On DD she didn’t want to split up and said all the right things like she’d do anything… anything to make our M work.

Now she’s saying that she’s done with the MC and won’t do IC. She’s lying about finances and buying crap left and right. Hundreds of dollars of mail order crap a month. She’s sneaky about it and exaggerates her expenditures (on the low side) when I ask how much she spent for the day at the mall. Basically she’s shown me by her actions that she’s just over it all and doesn’t want to put any more anything into the recovery. Just wants to forget about it I guess.

This makes her feel like one day I love her and the next I don’t. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

She’s pretty much told me that if I don’t want to know then don’t look.

I’m still in MC and some IC.

What can I do? I’ve told her how her dishonesty has hurt me and I’m having trouble with building any faith in her at all. My trust for her is not happening because of dishonesty that is occurring.

I’m really starting to see just one alternative…

I’ve been doing MB the whole time but she thinks that is like Harry Krishna’s. (No offense to Haury Krishnas meant)

EMN.

EMN....if you two can not get to POJA then there are few alternatives. It has to be a two way street and it doesn;t appear to be. You can not save your marriage alone.

Good luck with everything.

Sounds like she is willing to risk her marriage for things she spends money on ... Would you say this is accurate?