Hi,
I just wanted you to know that I've been thinking about you. Hope your visit with the Chaplin will help give you some peace. Where are you PCS'ing to? Is it anywhere near your family? Do you know his password to get into MyPay to look up his LES's? If you do, it will show you there what allotments he has set up and what accounts his pay goes to. He may have changed it by now if you did know it. Just a thought I had.

Yes I do know his password for that. I will look it as soon as I get done here. I have been calling around trying to find a chaplin and no one seem to know who they are. I must admit that this post has been changing and there are big deployments now but come on what about the people back here.

On another note WH came in today did not call but did ring door bell. He wanted to get another box of stuff. He is really bored from what he says. I told him about DD knowing and he really did not say anything. He talked more about how the food he is eating sucks and that he wants a microwave. To bad.

I called finance today and they say he owes me at least $750 per month if he is staying in the barracks. I think I will see what he does first. Also he gave back a small gift that I gave him for his birthday and I said it was his.
WH"I don't want it I am cleaning out my boxes." I said "It is your and it is your choice to do with it as you please" He throw it away. I had to hold back my laugh. Is it normal for them to move all there stuff out evendtuff they have not touched in years?

On a sad note I had to make an appointment with Dr. today. I can not keep food down anymore and that is scaring me. I am trying to heal myself though and not tell him because I am sure WH will think I am guilting him.

I am in the middle of getting a part time job as a sub. teacher. They want me bad, I just have to fill in the paperwork. I am happy about that.

I emailed you a couple of phone numbers for the Chaplin's and the family life center. I don't know if they are the same ones you've been trying. The family life center will have a whole counseling staff, not just one chaplin so you might have better luck with that.

Thank you Doxielover. I just got back from moving some savings into my own account. I also found out that he has to only pay me $500 dollars a month. That's it. I will have to get a job and I am taking off my name on the credit cards if he says he is going to pay for them. This is very frusteraring but I feel that I am handling it very well. I just don;t like being left in the dark when it comes to my WH job. That is the main reason I am trying to get to the chaplin. I do not want to call the unit anymore I am done with them.

Do you think I should go to the FRG meeting still? I want to start doing things that I haven't been doing in a long time.

Also I just realized that my WH has left some things here b/c he might need a reason to come over does anyone else think this is normal?

I'm a bad one to ask about FRG. I know a lot of people that are very active and they do seem to do a lot of activities for the wives (spouses) and kids. My kids are older (only one at home now) so I don't really participate unless there is some big news ~ and I ususally already know that from H or work. I think it would be good for you to have some contact with others, esp. as things draw down around there. You may not get some of the info you would normally get from WH.

I hear that they pay subs pretty good. I know they are always needing them around here.

Who knows if he left the stuff on purpose or not, might be just an excuse to come back. Maybe he's starting to feel the impact of his A.

Hi mhwag, I sure am glad you hooked up with Doxieluver. Her information is Army specific, and is current. I didn't even know the Army had gone "on line" with their military pay function. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I see your husband is acting increasingly like a petulant child. I can imagine how disappointing that is. Throwing away his present like a three-year-old throwing a tantrum must have been amusing in some respects. I’m glad he’s bored in the dorm and that the food in the chow hall isn’t real good. He’ll recognize all that much quicker what he’s throwing away.

Go to the doctor. You must get your physical health under control. Once that’s done, keep working on the weight. I lost 30-something pounds last year and the improvement in my outlook on life is incredible. Your emotional health seems to be improving too. I don’t know if you would have seen the humor last week in your husband tossing a gift away.

Getting that part-time job sounds to me like a good idea on several levels. First is the income it will provide, of course. Additionally, it’ll also get you out of the house and keep you busy instead of sitting at home worrying too. That can’t be anything but good.

Well he did it again. He saw me driving home and he was driving the other way. He shows up at the house a few minutes later. Saying he found something that will help him with the microwave. I just said ok and found a missing piece to the micro and gave it to him. He knows that I was going to a movie tonight and he goes" Why didn't you ask me?" I did not even think to ask him. I told him that I was not sure he wanted to because the girls did not have fun with him the last time they went out. So I said it was up to the girls and they said they wanted to go to their frinds house. He then just left. I gave my friendly good bye see you later speel. P.S. He is still bringing me the mail. He is weird. Also still trying to get in touch with a chaplin they are hard to find here. Go figure.

You found a what and gave it to him? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

The girls are giving him a real big hint huh? Maybe...maybe he's beginning to see through the fog?

There was a piece of micro missing and I knew where it was. I gladly got it for him. I also invited him to go to the movies with me and my friend. He quickly said no I don't want to go with you. I said I just offered. HEHEHE I feel giddy for some reason. I also think he will be back while I am gone. I just made his fav salad and put it in the fridge. HHHHHMMMMM.

A piece of the microwave. Oh, okay <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Stay positive. You're doing great.

Ok here is a new little twist. I went to the movie and it was great. My girlfriend and I were talking on how my WH would be in the house as soon as the movie started because he always is stating that he never get to use the house phone or computer. Well as soon as the movie was over I got up and right behind me was guess who....WH. Now he did make stupid comment" I didn't know you were right there." Then he took off fast. HEHEHEHEHE. I really think he doesn't know what he wants right know. The funny think is the movie was about telling the truth and being true to who you are. I smile.

Wow. Now that's a little strange. Let me see. Hmmmmm, okay. I presume the movie did not end and they didn't bring up the lights so quickly that he didn't have time to leave without you seeing him...so he wanted you to see him...wanted you to know he was there...I don't believe he didn't know you were there. I assume you and your friend were chatting from time to time during the movie? Besides, if he was "right behind" you (next aisle?), he could hardly have not known a woman he's lived with for longer than a couple of weeks. Hah!

So...assuming he wasn't there to make sure YOU weren't having an affair, he's wanting to be near you...or...? I'm sure his actions look a little strange. Maybe he doesn't want to admit he wants to come out of the fog, but he can't help himself? What do you think about that? Could be the fog is fading fast and a lot of reality is beginning to shine through, you think?

And the subject matter of the movie--that's a MasterCard 'priceless' moment. Keep up the good work.

Yes the movie was priceless. I won't tell you the movie but it was about a man who had to choose between his job or his family and in the end he almost lost both. I love it. The lights turned on very quickly after the movie so that could not have been it. Also there is only one movie room w/ 500 seats and only about 20 people were there. I do think there was a small chance he might have been "checking up on me A wise but that might show he had some jealosy that he has never really shown. If so wow that would make my day.