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How do I confront him?
#1564900 01/16/06 06:46 AM
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Hi, on Friday I was surfing the web at home, whilst waiting for one of the sites to come up, I was clicking on the toolbar, looking at which other programs were open. One happened to be our Outlook folder. The top email was from a site named Adult Friend Finder. I got a huge shock!!! Obviously wanting to investigate futher, I went to the site, registered as a user and searched for my Fiance. To my horror I found him there. I know I need to confront him, and I want to do it tonight. How do I do this? How do I know he is telling the truth? How do I know if he has ever met any of these people, or had sex with them? I feel sick, and scared, but I can't keep quiet about it. Please help! What can I expect when confronting him, what do I do???
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To my horror I found him there. I know I need to confront him, and I want to do it tonight. How do I do this? How do I know he is telling the truth?

Well, you could set up a date with him (don't use your name, of course). Discuss with him what he's looking for, then arrange to meet him at a place he knows, a restaurant perhaps. Arrive a few minutes after he does. It will be impossible for him to deny anything at that point. You may want to bring a trusted friend or relative along with you, to try to prevent the situation from getting nasty.

Before you do all of this, try to decide if you want to continue working on your R if it turns out that he IS an active "Adult Friend". Me, I'd suggest the "drop like a hot potato" approach - if he's doing that at this point in your R when the "giver" feelings are supposed to be at their highest, then the outlook for your M is very bleak, IMO.

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