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Hello, I really need some advice please.
My partner and I are not married but have been living together for 4 years and now I have discovered that he is having an EA. I don't believe that he is having a PA (yet) and in essence I need advice as to how to stop the natural move for him to PA.
Is it possible for me to ask for advice here even though I'm not married, this obviously does not lesson any of the emotional pain I feel over this issue.
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If you expose the affair, it may end it before it goes farther. What have you done about the affair so far? Have you confronted your bf? Who is the woman?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hello MelodyLane,
Yes, I have confronted the BF and he did admit to it.
What have I done about the Afair, I told the BF that it has to end. He is resistant to it, tries to rationalise it. He has admitted though that he will think about the repercussions of just throwing away our 4 year relationship.
The woman is sister to very close personal friends of ours. She currently lives with them and will probably do so for another 18 months or so.
I need to convince the BF not to leave as he started looking a place to live and I believe this is so that the PA can begin in ernest!!
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What does the close personal friend say about it?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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It is her sister, I haven't even dared bring up the subject!!
I guess I feel that she will side with her sister and that I will end up being alienated even further.
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