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Yep, lastnight was the moment of truth, he took it well, in fact so well, it seems he doesn't really care. Perhaps it's shock, but he called me from work as he usually does, and well, he's normal...I feel better that I came clean on it, but I don't understand why he doesn't care about it. He has always said if we strayed, to be honest about it, and it wouldn't really matter, and now I'm thinking he's right. Now what?
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Benna:<P>What did he say? What did he do? Did you read ANY anger on his face? Any relief at finally knowing? Did he give you ANY reaction at all?<P>Perhaps he doesn't know what to say or how to feel. Perhaps you two could see a counselor to help you articulate things in the most helpful way.<P>I'm glad you came clean. Personally, I think you did the right thing. At least you don't have this secret between you anymore.<P>Let us know what happens.<P>------------------<BR>/// Lone Star * ///<P>
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Good for you, Benna. You'll need some time to sort through the feelings,but you took an important step. LS is right - some joint counseling may be good. How are YOU feeling now? Are you ok?<P>Keep us updated.<P>Lori
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Beena,<BR>Good for you! I agree that he may be stunned, and that counseling will help you both to deal with this.<BR>Thoughts & Prayers,<BR>Buttterfly<P>------------------<BR>My favorite quote....<BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be handeling your problems today. I will not need your help, so sit back and have a good day."<BR>
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Certainly wasn't the reaction I was expecting, hoping that is good!<P>How are you doing. Do you feel relieved? Does husband want to help? Did you talk about the SA?<P>(((hugs)))<BR>I'm proud of you. <BR>TNT
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You know Benna, I was kinda wondering how your husband was gonna react. You mentioned before that you didn't think you could bear the look on his face when you saw that you broke his trust... At the time, I was wondering if he would actually be sexually turned on by it or something. He has a strange attitude about sex, as you've said. I didn't think it would be cool to mention it then...<P>just throwing out some thoughts your way...<BR>--andy
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Benna: I'm glad you came clean, but's it's been my experience that when things like this happen and you get no reaction...you will, maybe not now but eventually you will. Things of this nature seem to always find a way to affect a relationship. I would start now in building that extra strong emotional bond for when and if he does react. If he never does then a little extra closeness never hurt anyway now does it? ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif)
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