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Just ending week 3 of plan B and there has been no contact whatsoever, zero. I do have WH blocked from my email so I don't know if he has tried (I told him I would so I doubt it), but certainly no call. He did text dd14 the day after I sent him PlanB letter, but other than that not even any contact with the kids...and ds15 had his wisdom teeth out last week. He didn't even call to check on him.
Is this a normal reaction to Plan B? I admit that I expected him to at least call the kids.
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Does he understand that he can see the kids? How long were you in Plan A, pb?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I did tell him that he needed to make whatever arrangements to see kids directly with them (all are teens), and I have never kept him from communicting with them.
It is hard to say how long I plan A'd...or even if I even did a plan A. He almost immediately moved out of state when he left (he was no longer comfortable at his job here, as his employer made it plain he did not approve.) He has since moved again and is 800 miles away. He was seeing the kids regularly, though not very often. His work brought him within reasonable visisting distance about every 4-6 weeks. We seemed to be making some real progress early this fall through email and phone contact, but then he simply just withdrew. He admitted that it was "beginning to be too easy to talk to me". Anyway, since then he has been distant and cold and I really felt my respect and affection for him waning...which is why I decided it was time for plan b. I gave him the name of a intermediary, but told him if he was not comfortable with that person he could choose someone else...as long as they are truly neutral.
Anyway...that's the condensed version if that helps any.
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I can't comment on what is normal or abnormal in Plan B, as my 1st attempt failed.....but, today is the first day of my 3rd attempt......so I'm going through it with you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
God Bless,
Caren
P.S. I'm doing it RIGHT this time!!!!!!!!!
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Just read your post...you go, girl <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Maybe he's a fast learner. When I went into Plan B, my WH constantly tried to contact me the first couple of days. Then there was absolutely NOTHING for the next 4 months. Right before Christmas he called me at work and told me he was moving back home.
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