My H has been gone now since November. He came over last Saturday to visit our kids. (He spent more time talking to me instead). I have avoided LB and continue to be loving and caring regardless of the situation. I am so confused right now. He claims he believe our marriage is worth saving, but does nothing to improve it. He agreed to work on the marriage. I told him I wanted to take small steps in the restoration and he also agreed to that. He asked to talk to me that Saturday and everything came out his mouth was a lie. He claim he will be going to truck driving training and while he is doing that they will send my a benefit package for the kids and me. (I know he is lying because his parents does not know anything about the training and that is something he would tell them). Why is he making up so many lies? He has not come by or call since then. He has been flip flopping about coming home and fixing our marriage since December. The hard part is he seem so sure about fixing it while he is over, but everything changes once he leaves. He periodically would call to see how we are doing and ask to come over to see the children. I guess he feels guilty about being gone and want to make himself feel better. He is still in denial about the other woman. He claims there is no one else, but I am not a fool I know there is. I love him very much and want to save our marriage, but unsure what to do at this point. I am getting very frustrated and don't want to go on in this way much longer. The sad thing is we have only been married now for 11 months. He walked out the week our second child and I came home from the hospital. I am in need of some HELP. PLEASE

I think the first step you need to take is to get some evidence of an affair and then expose it. Are his parents supportive of you?

It is hard for me to expose because I am at a lost to where he is staying. He is no longer at the job site he was previously working at so I can't find him that way either. His employer is being very secretive and don't want to give me any kind of information. He is not telling his parents or anyone else where he is living either.
His parents are very supportive of the kids and me and very much disapproves of his behavior. They has also told him on many occasions he need to go home to his wife and kids and be a responsible adult.He would avoid the comment or mumble somthing under his breath that he would not repeat. They too think he is engaging in an affair and called him on it, but he is denying it to them as he is to me.

go to the source..

when you say to your husband ..
I need to know where you live

he says??????????????????

when you say...to your husband...
I need you to come watch the children because I need to go ___________

he says????????????????????

etc
etc
etc...

when you two TALK
he SAYS???????????????????????????????????

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