I found out he had a one night stand when he had a lay over in Atlanta on his way back to Iraq.He was back here for Christmas and we have been trying to get pregnant. He sleep with her after he got drunk at a club. I have only known for a week and he couldn't even tell me i found out through an email from her in which it decribed everything. I feel like a fool. I haven't eaten or slept more than a hour a night since. I can't get the image of them out of my head. He told this women i was his exwife I don't know what hurt more. I love him but how do i begin to forgive this. He contacted her once after it happened but he hasn't again that i know of. But how am i suppose to know if he does or not with him half way around the world. We are both willing to work on this and are reading the book Surviving an Affair together. i don't know how we are suppose to do this over the phone.with him so far away and me not knowing if he is calling her before he calls me. he wont be back for 10 months and i can't go on like this until hegets back. I need to know what we can be doing now. please help

SW,

I hope you saw in the other thread that the infidelity - General Questions board is the place to be. Many more posters over there.

Copy and paste your post over there.

btw...welcome to MB. I am not experienced in advising your sitch but others will be around.

Mr. Wondering

p.s. - does he get access to the internet over there. He could post with you on this board. I know the times vary dramatically but there are a lot of wise folks here to assist. I have seen numerous military threads like your also.