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I know this is off topic, but I need some advice:

The story, in a nutshell:

My S is D from XBIL, and has re-M. This weekend her 14 y/o DD (my niece) broke down crying, saying she didn't want to go to her F's house anymore b/c he drinks 2-3 bottles of wine every night, get verbally abusive. She photographed the cases & cases of empties in the basement of the house. My S called the lawyer, took her over during the day, took her clothes, etc. out, and XBIL will be notified by the court later this week that S will have full custody from now on.

So, for my niece, everything should be OK. She is going to counseling.

Here is my concern:

XBIL also is re-M. His new W drinks with him. She has an 11 y/o D, that is in the home with them.

Both girls discussed the alcohol abuse and are reporting this to their respective guidance counselors today.

I am afraid for the 11 y/o. My niece is with her mother, but the other little girl is left in a home with two alcoholic parents.

My XBIL is manipulative, borderline personality, bullying man. He hit my S while they were M.

Is there anything to do for this child?


me-FBS M-6/84 3 great kids A-2/03-5/04 DDay-5/8/04 WD - severe-5/04-9/04 with continuing C; NC ltr-9/3/04 In Recovery with God's help Praying for all WS/BS. Blessings!
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Call CPS and give them the photos as evidence.


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Thanks.

The law guardian at court advised my S to have the schools do the reporting to CPS.

I am concerned about this. The 11 y/o attends school in a very wealthy district, where there is a ton of denial about alcohol. It gets more complicated. XBIL is a teacher in her school (that is how he met her mom; he was the child's teacher). I am concerned that they will cover it up.


me-FBS M-6/84 3 great kids A-2/03-5/04 DDay-5/8/04 WD - severe-5/04-9/04 with continuing C; NC ltr-9/3/04 In Recovery with God's help Praying for all WS/BS. Blessings!
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Well, my niece reported to her guidance counselor (GC). The GC told my S that, since she has removed her D from her XH's's home, and has altered the custody arranagements, they choose not to report to CPS.

Niece's step-sister (11 y/o) became afraid before going in to her GC, and did not report. I can understand; she is only 11 y/o, her F is a teacher in the school.

So, this leaves the 11 y/o alone, in a home with 2 alcoholic parents, and no one to advocate for her.

Perhaps I should just be happy for my niece; that she is finally out of an abusive situation.

But, I remain troubled; thinking about the child left behind.

My S is contemplating reporting to CPS tomorrow.


me-FBS M-6/84 3 great kids A-2/03-5/04 DDay-5/8/04 WD - severe-5/04-9/04 with continuing C; NC ltr-9/3/04 In Recovery with God's help Praying for all WS/BS. Blessings!

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