Asking is a requirement Todd.

Hi, Todd.

I have a question for you.

When are you going to put away your fear and put your feelings back on the line again?

It appears to me that you are running from yourself, Todd. I know it sucks to be cheated on, even long ago. Regardless, at some point in the near future, you will have to decide how you will continue.

Here is the thing, Todd. There are not guarantees on just how long Crystal will wait on you. When we feel all justified in our righteous indignation, we are almost certain that we will have our day, and that our day will be of our own choosing. Are you so certain of that? What if she gives up while you are still trying to decide.

I have cheated and been cheated on, Todd, and one thing that I have learned is that the choices I need to make today will only be harder if I put them off until tomorrow. The anger and pain you are facing are not going to go away by trying to figure out why you chose to marry Crystal. The anger and pain you are facing will only recede as soon as you decide to continue on with your life.

Why not continue on with Crystal? You have history and children together. Starting over with someone else only brings a new set of problems to be solved.

Pick a date in the near future when you will decide your future, wait too long and you may find the decision has been made for you.

All the best,
Gimble

I think too that todd needs to understand who he was, but I do not want that "old" man. I want a man who also has learned from this he!! that we have been going through and come out not only a better person but also a better H, father and Christian. I think if he can "find himself" and understand, then he WILL be that better "everything" that he could never be before. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> That's the man that I want!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />(a WOW will he be great!!)

Gimble...who is Crystal anyways!?!?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Anyways you said:


See the problem for our entire M was that he never put his feelings on the line. He is trying to figure out why. That is why he is doing IC and seeing a hypnotherapist. He is working to try and figure himself out. I guess the hardest part is that he may decide at that point that he wants to move on without me. I hope not!<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />



I agree with this but I think for the issues that todd is facing and with his type of personality (VERY logical and unemotional)it will take him more time then "we" think it should. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for your thoughts,
Cruise

Anyone have any thoughts here?

"Gimble...who is Crystal anyways!?!?!"

Sorry, I meant to write Cruise.

Gimble