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Hurting....Yes, you want to know.
You NEED to know, your gut already knows, and it's trying to convince your heart....isn't it?
The only way to fight this is to be informed....so read Surviving an affair, and start being proactive, not reactive.
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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HT -
You definitely need to find out the truth. These mysterious phone calls are very suspicious. So, he doesn't know you are snooping on him.....I think you can pay to find out who that cell number belongs to. There are a number of on-line sites that can do that research.
I have not used one for that purpose, but perhaps someone here who has had some success can help you with that.
You have got to find out though. You don't want to allow him to have an Affair & have you at home on the side raising your children.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Does he use the computer???? There's some wicked good spyware out there.
God Bless,
-Caren
P.S. Kim, I am just beginning my 3rd plan B attempt.....how is yours going? E-mail me if you'd like, so as not to thread-jack.
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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I think it is of vital importance to find out if he is having a EA and/or PA in order to start working things out.
At this stage it is very convenient for him - having a wife at home to look after the kids and run the household while the OW is fulfilling the other needs while away from home - what a nice setup?.
In order to start rebuilding your M the truth need to be uncovered and then only can the rebuilding start - not knowing is slowly but surely killing you mentally and will effect your general health in the long run.
The decrease in phonecalls after you talked is a sign that he is feeling guilty and try to stop this "love drug" but after a few days the crawing is taking over again.
I hope it all work out fine.
Walk the talk
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