I just over heard from my FIL as he was talking to his brother, How my WxH was very upset that I was invited to Thanksgiving and especially Christmas Dinner with the family.

He called on Christmas night to complain to my MIL and really upset her and my FIL regrets being asleep when this call took place. This phone call really disturb my MIL alot.

My FIL also mention how childlike my WXH was and it wasn't like he was in the area, he lives in Las Vegas and we are here in the North East. So what was to big deal, but obviously it was to my WXH.

Now I feel my WxH is going to try to ruin my relationship with my in-laws. My ILS love my like their daughter and they are the only family I have and of course they didn't want me to be alone on the holidays. They have told me several times how much they love and they want me to be part of our lives.

I have accepted the fact, I probably won't be going to family weddings, reunions or family gatherings.

I think my WxH is over reacting and why should he care, I could see if he was invited, but he thousands of miles away.

Did my WXH really want me to be all alone on the holidays, how cruel is that. I only done everything he ask of me and in return from him I get backstabbed by him everytime.

I knew he loved me at one time in his life, so why would he show such anger towards me, especially on Christmas?

that's crazy! my own parents invited my sister's (their daughter's) WxH to Thanksgiving last year when they knew she wouldn't be able to be there and he had nowhere to go. He didn't come, but still. He had been a part of the family at one time and they didn't see any harm in inviting him.

Maybe my WXH is scared that the OW will never have the relationship I have with his parents. My WxH already thinks I poison his parents mind about him. First of all, his parents are stubborn and no one can change their mind about anything, and believe it or not we go weeks without even talking about my WxH. The world doesn't revolve around him and there are other things to talk about other than him.

He is not the same man I fell in love with 17 years ago. The man who promised my Mom on her death bed that he would always take care of me. I do miss this man but the man he is today is a complete departure of the man he once was.

I'm still fuming 24 hours later. I don't know if I'm more angry or hurt. One of the characteristics of my WxH was a peacemaker now he is distroying everyone around him.

I'm angry and hurt that he was angry that I was with his family for Christmas. They love me and support me through out this whole mess. He made a choice, to run off with the OW and abandoning everyone who loved and cared for him. For a woman who lies, cheats and can not be trusted. Who will do everything she can to get what she wants and doesn't matter who she hurts to get it.

I'm also angry that he called his Mom to complain about this on Christmas. Out of being grateful that his parents are willing to work on their relationship with him, he berateds his Mom on Christmas Day. Making his Mom cry and very upset. His Mom is one of the most beautiful people I know. Where is all this anger coming from?

I have done everything he has ask of me and everything he promised me he broke. When I exposed the A I did it respectly with the hopes of saving my marriage. I could have been nasty and bitter, but that would only be reflected back on me. I've only been calm around him without picking fights and still he has this anger about me. Like he is treatened by my relationship with his parents. I think the OW put him up to this. She is feeling threatened by my relationship with his family and it frustrates her because she can't control them like she does my WXH.

P.S. My MIL wants the best for me and has encourage me to start dating again, which I'm not ready yet. She has made it clear that any man I date is welcomed into this family. She joked "Bring me back another son" If only my WxH heard that then he really would have blown his lid <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Hi HD,

I can sympathize with how you are feeling.I think it will pass.It's no surprise your XH is mad when YOU go to see his parents.You are encroaching on his territory and if you are there ,he cannot be,not truthfully anf lovingly.You are in the way. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

It's great that your IL's have stuck by you.I read here that many don't in favor of the WS( child) being "happy" and they don't want to create anymore stress.So much for integrity.My IL's have also stuck by me and were devastated.To be honest,I don't know what the relationship is like with his parents anymore,probably superficial to some degree.Our of respect,I have stopped talking about him,anything A related and so we don't talk about any of that amymore.It's just as well since it was so emotionally draining and painful,there does come a time to put it in the "past".We still talk and when I go out to see them and my SIL we go out to dinner.But it's all fun and positive now not about what WH did.


That's funny! What a classic.I know my IL's have told my STBXWH to never bring the homewrecker around to their home and they also told me they would never welcome her into the family because of what she is.I believe them but also am not foolish to believe that that might not change one day.I hope not as that would be so painful for me.

Try not to worry over what the WS/FWS/XS thinks or does.It's futile.He obviously has no humility or care to hurt his mom that way.

O