sw527
there is nothign wrong wiht being angry with your H, you have a right to be, BUT its what you do with that anger right now which is important.
DO NOT THINK ABOUT REVENGE etc that is just a disaster waiting to happen.
My own thoughts about the 'more than once' are that it doesn't really matter, once was too often, way to often. What you are talking about are just the details, the betrayal itself is bad enough for you to deal with by itself.
Adultery once twice a 100 times is still adultery, thats the thing to concentrate on.
I do suggest you get assistance in the form of counselling for youself and that you consider INSISTING that your H goes to MC with you when he returns. Perhaps even IC for himself to find out why he did it - was it to do with going over there etc or what.
As hard as it is right now I would suggest you keep the talk family orientated however if you need to say you are angry, if you feel you need to express that to him, do so but also remember to tell him that even angry you still love him as that it very obvious in your posts.
Also I would tell him you are glad he told you the truth so you are not wondering constantly about it all the time.
In the meantime also ask that he has no contact with ANY other woman & should one contact him to tell you.
It is very hard to do too much so far apart and its extra hard for you. However a good sign is your H willing to tell you the truth.
Remember go get some help from a counsellor - the Army should be able to help here - and keep yourself busy & well
All the best
