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Hi - Just wondering how you are. Haven't seen you post in a bit....
Everything o.k.?
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Hi Kim, thanks for your concern. I have been dealing with Father problems all week out in West Texas and just got back home tonight. My father is terminally ill and refuses to go to hospice where he can get the best care. I ended up hiring round the clock care and threatened to kick his [censored] if he fires this group of nurses like he did the last. [he threatened to call the sheriff and/or shoot them <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />] Then, I called Adult Protective Services on him and they sent out Nurse Rachett, <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> who told him if he runs off his nurses that she can take him to the big house. [big house=hospice] Lord, that man is hardheaded... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
And then he started smoking again [one of his buddies smuggled him some cigarettes and marijuana] - while on oxygen - and I had to confiscate his cigarettes.
So, it's been a very long week.
How are things with you? How is visitation working out with no intermediary?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hugs to you, Mel...
I had to manage the care of my elderly, crochety grandparents for several years...
I know how difficult the whole process can be...
Thankfully my H was with me when they both passed away last year..
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Good golly, Mel, your dad sounds a character! Are you planning on writing about him when he's gone?
"No power in the 'verse can stop me."
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((( Melody )))
I was wondering where you have been too. I should have known you were off being an angel somewhere.
God bless you.
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Good for you Mel,
You take a week that had to be really difficult, and make it sound almost fun.
I admire you for that.
Hope most things are well with you.
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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Awwww ((((((Mel)))))).
Being in the health field, I can relate to how people can be when they're very ill, sometimes it's not very pretty.
My prayers are with you.
And I agree with the others, you are amazing.
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Melody... You know that my thoughts and prayers are with you in regards to your dad... Lord Chile...I just wanted to say that if you ever need someone to take care of you, be it due to illness or old age, I'd like to take this opportunity to volunteer for the position...cuz I know that it will take someone as hardheaded as I am to do it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I warn you, I am expensive...LOL! Me thinks that the apple didn't fall far from the tree...did it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> You know I'm only jokin with you cause I love ya so much! You've been missed! Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Adult diapers $50 Airfare out of her beloved Texas $200 Mrs. Wondering's care $50,000 Witholding ALL internet access ("shaddup" Mel!) and making her sleep with our CAT...PRICELESS <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Meow (with a yankee accent), Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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(((Mel))) -
Your Dad does sound like a handful - looks like you are dealing with him amazingly. I hope your Dad knows how much of a blessing you are! Glad you are home safely and that you checked in for us! We missed you here.
Kim
BTW - things are working out pretty good so far without an intermediary. WH was 20 minutes late the other day, but other than that no problems. Thanks for asking!
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Hi Mel, I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my father to cancer so I feel your pain. It is never easy to lose a parent, no matter the age. Gosh Mel, you give so freely of your time to others and yet I have never heard you mention any troubles of your own (other than that oil change incident <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />). I think the Wonderings have you pegged. Now we all know where you get your spunk! He threatened to call the sheriff and/or shoot them Boy oh boy. You Texans and your guns! One of his buddies smuggled him some cigarettes and marijuana - while on oxygen - and I had to confiscate his cigarettes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Thinking of you and sending you hugs. I hope you are finding the time to take care of yourself as well. S.
Me/BS 48
Married 16 yrs/together 23; 1 child
Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05
WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05
WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06
12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture)
2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late.
WH has tried numerous times to reconcile.
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Thanks, Mimi. I am very sorry about your parents. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose them both so close together. Thanks RiverTam, carnation, and Caren. stillseeking, he is a real character that is always trying to find a way to be alone and be left alone. He does not want a pack of bossy women in there interfering with him so he and I went round and round about bringing these nurses in. He insisted he would be just fine, which is nonsense. When I set up the appointment to interview the home health agency, they called ahead to confirm the appointment. My dad intercepted the phone call in his bedroom. Shortly afterwards my uncle comes out and says "he is in there laying a big line of BS on someone! He is saying "oh no, I have plenty of help already and dont need anything. My daughter is here, my brother is here, my girlfriend is here every day and we go places together! blah blah, blah, blah...." See, my dad is bedridden and can barely make it to the restroom even with a walker and a nurse. [sometimes not at all] So I went in there and said "dad, who were you talking to?" Well, that wiley old cat had told the home health care people not to come, that he didn't need their help! I had to call them back and convince them that we wanted them to come. They won't come if the patient doesnt want them so I had to assure them he would let them in. What amazes me most is that he can be practically comatose and incoherent one minute and then the next he can be sitting up telling some big story - with minute detail - about a basketball game he attended in the 60s. [Texas Western vs Kansas in the Lubbock Coliseum in 1966, the year TW swept the championship] We had been sitting there talking about the movie, Glory Road, and my dad interrupted us with several interesting details. He knew Jojo White, the player from Kansas and was a big KU fan. He also had known the coach of Texas Western for several years. Mrs. Wondering, you had better bring some good hawg tying rope and and your bestest pistola if you think you can get this ole girl down! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> My poor son says he isn't scared, he thinks he can take me. Dream on, little boy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> MrWondering, that yankee DAWG, wrote: Witholding ALL internet access ("shaddup" Mel!) and making her sleep with our CAT...PRICELESS Just a reminder what happens to cats who wonder on the MelodyLan d premises, you silly carpetbagger! click here for the awful truth <...ns/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I guess he won't sign over his POWER OF ATTORNEY to you so that you can make all the decisions without "HIS PERMISSION".
That's what I had to do....
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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I guess he won't sign over his POWER OF ATTORNEY to you so that you can make all the decisions without "HIS PERMISSION".
That's what I had to do.... Yes, I had him sign over medical power of attorney and financial power of attorney to myself and my uncle. HOWEVER, that only takes force when he cannot make decisions and he will not go to the hospice willingly. It was all I could do to force him to allow these nurses to come in. I did that by telling him if he didn't he would be forcibly taken to the hospice. That is why I called in Adult Protective Services, because they are the only ones who can legally force him to go into the hospice if they feel he is in danger. He would be in danger if he were left there alone.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thanks much, Shattered. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Mel,
I'm sorry about your struggles with your Dad. Life gets a bit ragged at the ends. He sounds like a fine rascal and whatever happens, will probably be "all right" in his own way.
-AD
A guy, 50. Divorced in 2005.
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OH Mel, holding that poor sweet little kitty at gunpoint....
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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OH Mel, holding that poor sweet little kitty at gunpoint.... yeah right, that kitty is about as "sweet" as a rattlesnake! Don't be fooled! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> Ad, thanks for the kind words. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Mel, I'm sorry to 'hear' about your dad's illness, but it sounds if you're doing an excellent job in taking care of him. May God bless you for that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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