My wife and I are divorcing after 1 1/2yrs of seperation. The seperation began due to an affair I had, but we have become friends and although I want t owork on things, she feels that there were things about me she did not know or was aware before marriage, such as my need for appraisal, that makes us very different people. She does not feel a person should have to change who they are in order for a marriage to work. She has always been introverted, had difficulty with sexuality, does not share her feelings, in fact bottles them up, and seems to keep everyone including me at an arms length distance from getting to know her. I know when we first met she mentioned being molested by a first cousin, but we never got into specifics and the few times I have brought it up she states it was never a big deal and has nothing to do with who she is now. Does anyone know anything about how childhood molestation within the family can afftect your own sexuality and ability to truely allow yourself to love someone? I just feel there is so much more to what is going on than the affair I had that came out almost 2 years ago. Any insight would be great.

Go to this post and you'll read about how your wife is showing classic symptoms of child molestation.

I'm by no means an expert and by no means a psychologist.

This link might help answer some of your questions.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...;page=1#2917277