Spent three hours and over $100 at Kinko's today!! Made me sick, but it was still cheaper than paying the attorney or a paralegal to do it.

Jean, from what my attorney says, this is standard operating procedure for WH's attorney, who always insists on the opposing side answering discovery, whether it goes to court or not. Of course my attorney is going to do one for WH, too. We were hoping to avoid that, b/c of the expense.

As far as I know, I'd say we're pretty far away from a settlement agreement at this point. Haven't submitted the counter offer yet, but my attorney says it could well end up at a hearing b/c what I'm asking for is very different than what WH is offering. I hate it, but I'm not going to back down. I need to protect both DD's and my financial future.

I think you are going about it the right way. I have spent over $3,000. trying to come up with a financial agreement with WH. No dice. He hasn't given an inch. If I had it to do over again, I would have gotten an attorney 3 years ago.

Wow, that's rough. Thanks for the encouragement, though. This whole mess is just so hard to deal with. Sometimes it's so hard to accept that this is my life, that it's really happening. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Oh, it is happening right now, but he will probably be back. But it is better to protect yourself and your daughter. I let my WH get away with too much money. All it did was fuel his sense of entitlement. Also I think it doomed our marriage, because his actions (spending all of our money) made me too resentful to ever want him back.

Just checking in. I've had some productive days at work recently, which is good. We've got a couple big projects we're working on that are coming up in the next couple months, and it feels so great to have something else to think about besides all this other drama.

Wow. I've spent the last hour going through emails and attachments from my attorney... discovery, interrogatories, counter settlement offer, etc. Whew! I don't even want to THINK about how expensive that all was!! Some of the q's were hard to see in black and white, seeing it all together. If I was on the receiving end of all that, there's no way I'd want this to go in front of a judge. Now that it's in the works, all I can do is pray and wait to see what happens.

DD and I have a big weekend coming up. We're getting together with friends Saturday afternoon, and I have a big dance concert both Saturday night and Sunday afternoon. Luckily, a friend will be here at the house with DD Saturday night so I can perform without worrying about her. I'm very happy about that!

I guess having my WH be a teacher is helpful--b/c we don't have anything to divide up like that--he didn't make enough. And being in a no-fault state means adultery means nothing. All that paperwork must be overwhelming.

I hope you can enjoy your weekend. I bet dancing must be a great stress relief.

Your weekend sounds like fun. Now that the paperwork is all copied, do you get a break from the lawyer drama for awhile?

Actually we don't have that much to divide up, either, intexas. I'm a government employee, and he's just on his first job post-college. I didn't think there'd be a ton of paperwork like this, but his attorney is insisting on it.

Oh, and yes, without a doubt, dancing is awesome stress relief!

Maybe a technical break, but I'll still be obsessing over it until I find out what happens from all this. Can't help it. That's partly why I've lost all the weight and why I'm so exhausted and run down.

Try to relax and take care of yourself. If you ever have to do recovery (and you probably will), it is much harder. You are new at this, and haven't witnessed all of the AMAZING turn-arounds that we see here. It is so strange. Some of the marriages that I think will do just fine end up in divorce, and some of them that don't seem like there is any chance at all are recovered.

Believer--you are so dang encouraging! Just had to thank you for your optimism.

Sadmommy--My wh hired the most expensive attorney in town (mine is only gonna charge me $400 for all of it--even calls to check on me, etc and doesn't charge for it--she's the daughter of a woman my friend is dating) and he only wants the cc info, mortgage info, vin #'s and last years and this years taxes.

What kind of info does he want?

What state are you in?

They wanted EVERYTHING and then some... all bank statements (plus cancelled checks, deposit slips, passbooks) from the time we were married, all credit card statements, all mortgage statements, all loans that are paid off, all health insurance stuff, all medical records, my diaries, all benefits at work, all pay stubs, all taxes from the time we were married, EVERYTHING from when we bought the house, EVERYTHING from when we bought the car. You name it, they wanted it. The requests were over 20 pages long. It was insane. Some of what they requested is irrelevant to the case, such as the medical stuff, so hopefully we'll avoid that.

Believer, you ARE encouraging! If it ever happens, maybe we'll BOTH be here.

Ugh. It's getting ready to hit the fan, and I am so anxious about it! The attorney had everything finished up yesterday and was to deliver it to WH's attorney.

In a way, I hope WH already knows about it, so he and OW will have a lousy weekend. But then again, I'm scared to death, wondering what the fall out is going to be. WH is going to be really, really angry when he sees it.

Man, I can't imagine having to compile all that info, WH and I would just have to be stuck married! Is all that really needed or is that WH's attorneys way to just cause you discomfort? If you hadn't gotten it all together, I wonder what WH would do??

I just wonder since I have heard NOTHING about my divorce and just can't imagine having to dig all that stuff up.

Wow. I have to say it's been a fantastic weekend, which is so refreshing!! First time I feel like I've had a good weekend since this mess started. DD and I got together with friends yesterday afternoon, I was in a dance concert both last night and this afternoon... NAILED my performances, and it was so much fun! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />!!!!!

Now I'm just waiting for my sweet baby girl to return after an afternoon with her daddy.

SM -

Glad you had a great performance!! Good Job!! Good to hear you happy today........

Kim

Thanks, Kim. Six months ago, I never would've dreamed there'd be life without H...

See, you are doing AWESOME!!! Are you going to keep up with the dance classes??

Kim

Of course, Kim! It's great exercise, great female bonding, and a chance to play dress-up!! I mean, how else would I have a reason to wear false eyelashes and body glitter??

Poor DD was really sick today. Woke up with a really upset tummy and had five very nasty diapers this morning as I stayed home with her. So naturally she has a raging diaper rash. Took her to the doctor, who said she has rotavirus, which apparently is pretty common for little ones. WH had her this afternoon. Poor, poor baby... breaks my heart to see her hurting so!

Good for you - I know I said I was going to get back into some sort of dancing......well, I'm still sittin' on my touche!

Hope DD feels better soon. It's awful to see your little on sick. Sounds like she's lucked up w/not having too many ear infections though --- my DS suffered with those. Never got to the point where he had to get tubes though.

Kim