My husband and I just recently separated. This was all my idea to separate. Ok Im going to try to start from the begining as much as I can. We met when I was 16 years old. We dated for about a month before I found out that he was married with a kid. He never bothered to tell me that he was married. From the story I got from him was that he had been separated from the x for about 2 weeks. I think it was less time than that. Well it bothered me at first that he didnt tel me but as time went on, I got over it. You know your 16 and your really dont thing about stuff like that. Well years went on, and he wasnt the most sensitive person I have ever met, but I cared for him. We moved in together. I think I was 18 at the time. Here we are 10 years later and we are still together. Married for almost 6 years. And have 1 child together. I have been feeling like this for at least 3 years now saying I was going to leave but never did until now. He has changed alot over the years with things that we talked about, but I still have a BIG problem with his ex and his other son and the fact that he never wants to go out and do stuff together. I havent been to a movie since 97'. We havent been out together for dinner in about 2 years. Other than fast food places, but most of the time we take that home. He never wants to go in and sit down and eat cus the places are too busy, (meaning too many people). He doesnt like anyone. Well back to the thing with his ex. I hate her. No big surprise, I dont trust her. I think somewhere deap down inside of him he still cares for her. From what he tells me she wasnt the way she is now. When they were dating she was different(better). But still I cant get over my feelings of them even being together. She says jumps he says how high. They had a problem with the "child" and she called him to ask him how to handle it. So he leaves around 8:00 at night and went to go help her handle it. I know he has to have some type of envolement with his child Im not arguing that, my problem was why couldnt her and her husband handle it. I guess I didnt understand why he didnt just deal with it over the phone instead of leaving me and a small child at home by ourselves at night...And he never asks her to do anything like picking him up or dropping him off. Its like hes scared of her. I asked him to call her one day and have her come to the house to pick him up because of some stuff going on and he refused. I am trying not to voice my opinion too much anymore because he doesnt listen. He is going to do what he is going to even if it affects the family. I know this is going to sound bad but I just wish the whole situation would go away for awhile. I know it cant but I wish it could. I talked to him the other night for like 4 hours about everything that was bothering me. I couldnt open up to him and talk to him fearing he would get mad. I dont know if I am making the right decision cus now I feel like I left him high and dry. Hes there all alone and Im not. I feel really bad what I have done. Is there anything I can do to give myself piece of mind knowing that Im doing the right thing? Sorry for such a long post...

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