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WH MIA
#1572841 01/24/06 06:39 PM
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This is probably a stupid question....

I haven't heard from wh since Christmas, almost 5 weeks ago.
He hasn't called or came to see the kids. Is he so up the ow's butt that he doesn't care about his family anymore? Is this normal since we have been separated since Sept? I still don't call him or bother him because I feel the ball is in his court.

Could he be plan b-ing us? I think he is going through MLC it all points that way and my C seems to think so too.

Any suggestions?????????? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

BS 48 me WH 45 married 23 years DDay JULY 2005 WH moved out Sept 2005 and moved in w/ow a month later DD 28 DS 21
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worldofthelost #1572842 01/24/06 06:59 PM
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Have you noticed any changes in yourself, since he's been gone? Like how you're coping, feeling, thinking, ect...

This could be a good time for you to soul search, about what you truly want to live with in your life...

Just my thoughts...

Take Care...

Jennifer
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Jennifer68 #1572843 01/24/06 07:06 PM
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If he is in MLC he will NOT care about the kids. Harsh, but true. Was he a good, present father before MLC and the OW?

"No power in the 'verse can stop me."
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Jennifer68 #1572844 01/24/06 07:12 PM
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Yes it is more peaceful, I can relax and I am sleeping at night. I love and miss him so much. My C told me that this was a good thing. Just let him go and hopefully it will turn around and he will miss us. I was getting to upset whenever he came over but then for him to do a 360 has got me worried that maybe he will never come back.

I feel like he is hiding. He is having alot of trouble financially, wanting to sell one of his beloved vehicles.

I feel like I sm in plan b myself without giving him a pbl.

BS 48 me WH 45 married 23 years DDay JULY 2005 WH moved out Sept 2005 and moved in w/ow a month later DD 28 DS 21
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I guess I really don't know what to say on this. I'm not the expert in this area, beings I'm divorced. But I CAN pray about it and will. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I do understand the about the loving and missing him part. That is very painful, but it sounds like you're doing all that you can. I think your C is correct in saying that he will start missing you all, too.

I'm sure some of the other members here will be coming along soon, with some better advice. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Just hang in there!! It'll somehow work out! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Jennifer68 #1572846 01/24/06 07:47 PM
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He was a great H and father before this started. That is why we are sure it is MLC. So frustrating to go from caring and loving to the point he is now.

Jennifer
Thanks for your input. I do hope this all works out!!!

BS 48 me WH 45 married 23 years DDay JULY 2005 WH moved out Sept 2005 and moved in w/ow a month later DD 28 DS 21

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