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>(it's Friday and I am feeling wild)
Poor Mr. Pep. He's gonna be a luckier many by days end, I can tell.
CGW-look up Faithinme and BobPures old threads. They did excellent plan As!
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will do!
BTW--guess what i'm doing tonight for the first time in my life? going dancing with some co-workers! this is so not "the old me" who would've gone grocery shopping before going dancing. that's part of what WH complained about. i was in "Mom mode" far too often. well, i like this "new me" who wears nicer clothes, uses makeup and has lost 25 lbs. (he's starting to notice, cause he told me last night for the first time in a long time that i was "looking good".) to tell you the truth, i'm a little nervous about going tonight, though, cause i've never been one to flirt and such...but i'm determined to have a good time anyway!
BW: me (52)
WH: him (51)
D Day #1: 8/14/04 (OW #1)
D Day #2: 12/10/05(OW #2)
M'd 28 yrs, together 32
DS: 25, 17; DD: 23
2004-05: False recovery(OW#1)
Plan A: he came back...
but is not committed to recovery.
Plan B: lived 10 months off & on w/OW#2
Plan D: nearly final except for mediation
Plan ME: Starting over with MY Life
Plan R: divorce stopped @ FWH request; Retrouvaille Weekend (2/07)
Plan Now:FWH committed & working hard on Recovery
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well, it seems that OW met her xOM in the parking garage at work for a BJ during lunch. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> WH found out and is furious. (even mentioned that he might be moving out--hooray!)
anyone got any good advice for what i can ReverseBabble to him about this?
since we're still sleeping together a couple of times a week (although he won't tell her about it since she'll put him on the street), he feels bad about deceiving her (what a tangled web we weave...) i told him "i'm your wife...you're SUPPOSED to be sleeping with me!", and "what kind of marriage would that be if you divorce me & marry her?" (he finally admitted that she's pushing for him to file.)
help! i need to use this to buy more time.
BW: me (52)
WH: him (51)
D Day #1: 8/14/04 (OW #1)
D Day #2: 12/10/05(OW #2)
M'd 28 yrs, together 32
DS: 25, 17; DD: 23
2004-05: False recovery(OW#1)
Plan A: he came back...
but is not committed to recovery.
Plan B: lived 10 months off & on w/OW#2
Plan D: nearly final except for mediation
Plan ME: Starting over with MY Life
Plan R: divorce stopped @ FWH request; Retrouvaille Weekend (2/07)
Plan Now:FWH committed & working hard on Recovery
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well, it seems that OW met her xOM in the parking garage at work for a BJ during lunch. see what happends when an OW reads HN/HN LOL she gives it up in a parking lot coz it's one of HIS needs BWHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
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SERIOUSLY
STDs can be passed from person to person via oral sex .... get tested --- MORE THAN ONCE
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you must be psychic...that's just what my IC said about an hour & a half ago--OW must "need a man" cause a BJ is all about xOM's needs, not hers!
i have yet to talk with WH about their "discussion" of yesterday's "events", so that'll be interesting.
yes, i plan to get tested...again.
any words of wisdom as to what i can say to WH without LB'ing?
BW: me (52)
WH: him (51)
D Day #1: 8/14/04 (OW #1)
D Day #2: 12/10/05(OW #2)
M'd 28 yrs, together 32
DS: 25, 17; DD: 23
2004-05: False recovery(OW#1)
Plan A: he came back...
but is not committed to recovery.
Plan B: lived 10 months off & on w/OW#2
Plan D: nearly final except for mediation
Plan ME: Starting over with MY Life
Plan R: divorce stopped @ FWH request; Retrouvaille Weekend (2/07)
Plan Now:FWH committed & working hard on Recovery
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Ew. I'm grossin' out.
She's so seriously classy.
Not.
Shine dearie. Those two are lbing their heads off at one another right now.
I think it's time he went over to her house with a new hickey.
And get tested! The last thing you need is HPV or your towns applause section cheering (clap).
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Why do you need to talk about it with him?
Be breezy and light. Flirty and funny. Show him what he's missin' by being with that kooze.
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any words of wisdom as to what i can say to WH without LB'ing? What's the specific point you want to make?
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i guess i'm trying to get him to see that if she's cheating on him now...then he can't trust her if he stays with her...but he can trust me. he is hesitating to do that with me cause he thinks i haven't changed or if i have, that i'll revert to my old ways of "not letting him into my heart." i would love it if he would give me a chance to have those intimate conversations he keeps saying they have that he never had time to have with me. sigh.
BW: me (52)
WH: him (51)
D Day #1: 8/14/04 (OW #1)
D Day #2: 12/10/05(OW #2)
M'd 28 yrs, together 32
DS: 25, 17; DD: 23
2004-05: False recovery(OW#1)
Plan A: he came back...
but is not committed to recovery.
Plan B: lived 10 months off & on w/OW#2
Plan D: nearly final except for mediation
Plan ME: Starting over with MY Life
Plan R: divorce stopped @ FWH request; Retrouvaille Weekend (2/07)
Plan Now:FWH committed & working hard on Recovery
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Be breezy and light. Flirty and funny. Show him what he's missin' by being with that kooze. learning to do those kinds of things...cause WH says she does those very well...and i never have. i'm more of a "shoot from the hip" person. too direct, sometimes.
BW: me (52)
WH: him (51)
D Day #1: 8/14/04 (OW #1)
D Day #2: 12/10/05(OW #2)
M'd 28 yrs, together 32
DS: 25, 17; DD: 23
2004-05: False recovery(OW#1)
Plan A: he came back...
but is not committed to recovery.
Plan B: lived 10 months off & on w/OW#2
Plan D: nearly final except for mediation
Plan ME: Starting over with MY Life
Plan R: divorce stopped @ FWH request; Retrouvaille Weekend (2/07)
Plan Now:FWH committed & working hard on Recovery
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