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Do I tell him everything I know-Do I call the other woman? *DELETED*
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Re: Do I tell him everything I know-Do I call the other woman?
hurtingterribly #1573955 01/25/06 06:55 PM
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WAIT until you have your appointment with Harley.

Do you think "logic" is going to influence OW that she does not want your H?

it won't work!

It will create a stronger bond between them ... just hold on!

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Re: Do I tell him everything I know-Do I call the other woman?
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HTly,

""Do I tell him I read the emails?""

I would not reveal your source. Are they still corrosponding?

Does she know you know?

How about sending flowers, with a nice note, and some hospice information?

If she has cancer and is enduring chemo and having an A and her H is divorcing her, she is probably so wacky, calling her would not have the end results you may think it would.

Your H may have called it off, but now she is sick, he can't do it. (Doing the honorable thing <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />)

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Absolutely do not tell him of reading the e-mails. First, as the previous poster says, you lose your source.

Secondly, it all becomes about you "snooping through his precious private world".

Keep them safe. You can shred them when all of this is over.

Do not call her; NC is for both of you.

Set boundaries; you want NC, and you are willing to help him get through this.

With your H out of the picture her marriage may get back on track, as well.

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me-FBS M-6/84 3 great kids A-2/03-5/04 DDay-5/8/04 WD - severe-5/04-9/04 with continuing C; NC ltr-9/3/04 In Recovery with God's help Praying for all WS/BS. Blessings!

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