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My daughter is a mother of a four-year-old precious little girl. She was never married to the child's father, but now is engaged to be married in May to another man. My daughter wants to take my granddaughter on the honeymoon, and it seems fine with her husband-to-be. However, I am concerned about the lack of alone time they will experience, and that the marriage will not receive the priority it should. I think it is sweet and noble to want to take her on the honeymoon, but is it the wisest thing to do? I appreciate your thoughts. Thank you!
Kathy S. [color:"white"] [/color]
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My daughter wants.........it seems fine with her husband-to-be. To me, there is the answer to your question. If my wife and I had agreed to take young 'uns along, that would have been dandy.
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I sometimes struggle with this in my own relationship. We talk about marriage, but we're not quite there yet. We both have sons from previous marriages. One is almost 9 and the other is 13. For the most part, our time is so limited with the boys as it is, when we have a chance to take time off to go somewhere, we want it to be with our family. That doesn't mean we don't want alone time, but we see doing something fun meaning so much more when our kids are involved. We do get opportunities to do things that are just the two of us which I agree is hugely important. I agree with what Bill said. If they're happily agreeable with the decision, it's what they want and seems like they've put some thought into it.
Hope that helps. :-)
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I was just breading an article the other day about how this is a growing trend. As the other posters say, if they are both truly OK with it, then that is the important thing.
For me though, I would say the answer would be "no". The marriage won't thrive if couple time is not a key priority, and somehow starting off by taking a child along seems to send a different message.
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My best friend married someone with a son. When they got married they spent the firs two nights just the two of them. They then took their son to Disneyworld and did that whole things as a family. They were able to spend time together as a newly married couple and incorporate their new family together. As long as everyone is happy about it, then it should be fine.
*poster formerly known as neverenough.
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