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#1574554 01/26/06 11:41 AM
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James Just called and said that he would like to have sex with me.....Yes or No

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If it helps... I just flipped a coin: Tails


BS (me - 32) WW - Crystal43 (34) D-Day - June '05 3 DDs NC - w/ OM #1, could be; w/ newest-OM, who knows New OM. Same MO She moved out 3/15/06 ("Beware the Ides of March!") "This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us —whatever we ask— we know that we have what we asked of him." 1 John 5:14-15 (NIV)
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I'll answer your question with another one.

Do YOU feel that he deserves such a gift?

I'm not sure what you current sitch is right now. If you post an update here we may some more direct advise for you.

Stay Strong!


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If it helps... I just flipped a coin: Tails
Oh crap TD. I got heads. Now what? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


Me (BS) 36 FWW 35 Married 5/25/91 DS-7 DD - Born 11/8/05 !!! PA #1 12/1996 PA #2 4/01 to 1/04 NC 1/04 There are people in the world so hungry, that God cannot appear to them except in the form of bread. - Mahatma Gandhi Don't think exposure is a good idea? Go here... From Harley Himself
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I guess it depends on what importance she assigns to them... Personally, I prefer tails, but maybe that's because I'm a guy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


BS (me - 32) WW - Crystal43 (34) D-Day - June '05 3 DDs NC - w/ OM #1, could be; w/ newest-OM, who knows New OM. Same MO She moved out 3/15/06 ("Beware the Ides of March!") "This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us —whatever we ask— we know that we have what we asked of him." 1 John 5:14-15 (NIV)
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Saw that coming <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Someone mentioned the other day that if it would help bring the two people together more intamately, then why not. However, we're not sure what the current situation is. Sometimes, deserving is not an issue, grace is.

Not sure if that helps.


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REMARRIED to a wonderful woman October 13, 2012!
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AngelaJ8,

I know that I went off on something of a diversion. Please accept my apology if I have offended you. My dad always told me that if you can't laugh at yourself, try to laugh at someone else.

I think that was it... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />


BS (me - 32) WW - Crystal43 (34) D-Day - June '05 3 DDs NC - w/ OM #1, could be; w/ newest-OM, who knows New OM. Same MO She moved out 3/15/06 ("Beware the Ides of March!") "This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us —whatever we ask— we know that we have what we asked of him." 1 John 5:14-15 (NIV)
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He moved out on Saturday we are currently separated..Does thie mean there may be hope fo my marriage or he is just horny

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Angela...

Only you know what you are going to do here, but if you should decide yes, and I don't think that you should(but I don't know your whole sitch)...PLEASE use protection...

Mrs. Wondering


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I went back and searched on your other posts and read them. It sounds like your husband was having at least an emotional affair, if not more. His anger and leaving go along with what a wayward spouse would do. For him to be calling now and saying he wants to have sex could mean all kinds of things, anywhere from wanting to have his cake and wanting to eat it too. I would want to know where he is in regards to the other woman and why he left. And as Mrs. Wondering said, ultimately it's your decision, but if it were mine I would say no. But if I said yes, I would definitely insist on some protection in case he had been with others.

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((( Angela )))

Please don't let him fool you - being separated is STILL being married. I suppose him wanting to be intimate with you is a good sign, but I would need to talk to him first. Are you in Plan A ? Always a great place to start this rollercoaster ride, hang on hon.

My flipped coin went down the a/c vent..... of course.

Best regards - Carnation

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Angela,

In response to your last post I think that the answer to both questions is yes.

There is alway hope as long as you don't give up.

My inclination on this issue is the same as Ms Wondering.

Stay Strong!


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I don't scr*w anyone that relegates me to a possible position of second choice. My ego and my soul would not and will not tolerate that insult.


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I don't scr*w anyone that relegates me to a possible position of second choice. My ego and my soul would not and will not tolerate that insult.

Everyone gets to make his or her own choice with regards to this situation, but, me... I would rather risk my pride in the short-term than preserve it for pristine display in the Museum of the Formerly Married.

Every married person is with someone who could possibly decide that they are really the second choice... It's a dynamic competition, and that's why we must, generally, *continue* to meet the other's ENs, lest we actually BECOME the second choice at the first opportunity to make that decision!


BS (me - 32) WW - Crystal43 (34) D-Day - June '05 3 DDs NC - w/ OM #1, could be; w/ newest-OM, who knows New OM. Same MO She moved out 3/15/06 ("Beware the Ides of March!") "This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us —whatever we ask— we know that we have what we asked of him." 1 John 5:14-15 (NIV)

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