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Don't know if any of you remember me but I wanted to chime in with an update of sorts.
I'll caveat this post by saying that there is a half a bottle of wine and a couple of cuban cigars that had creative influence over this post.
Today, my wife and I welcomed our 2nd daughter into this world!!! 8lbs 7 oz!! Our mid-wife let me deliver her. What a feeling. My wife and I created her and my hands brought her into this world. Never in my life have I ever felt so big and so small at the same time. I'm standing there witnessing the greatest miracle that exists and at the same time being entrusted with the responsibility of raising this child.
I felt her first breath.
So far, this tops everything that has happened in my life. How is it something that has only existed for seconds I already love unconditionally. Freaking amazing!!
Three years ago I...scratch that...we, never saw this coming. It's amazing how perspective changes things. The growth that has taken place in both of us is amazing. After all that we've been through, we actually TEACH a HN/HN class through our church.
I don't post much anymore but I do drop by and read once or twice a week. Truth is, it's still the same as when I first got here in 2001. I see the despair of the new folks and the frustration of those who have been around a bit. Folks are still searching for the quick answer...
I wanted to type an eloquent, well-written post of encouragement to the newbies and the vets. Those who come here on a daily basis to seek out help or to hand that help out but honestly I am having trouble finding the words.
Today when our daughter cried for the first time it made all the crap we went through worth it. It's funny but her birth is just one in a long line of things that made the "crap" of the was few years worth it, . A few are below...
-Our first real kiss after we were honest with each other about our A's.
-The smile on our oldest daughter's face.
-Teaching our first marriage class together.
and now the birth of our daughter.
We still have issues, though most are pre-A and we work on them as we come accross them. It gets better as time goes on. The pain and scars start to fade and you don't even notice them unless you really look for them (which happens sometimes).
If you feel like your stagnate, look back on where you've been...where you started and see the difference between then and now. And really, "now" isn't so important either. What you're working towards is the prize.
For those who have posted to me in the past, I thank you for your advice, care and concern.
God Bless,
Doug
in His grip and holding on.
I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I was intended to be.
-- (the late)Douglas Adams
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God bless you, Doug. That is awesome!
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
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Thank you for this post. Been looking for some hopeful and happy endings but have seen too few.
Congradts on the new baby, that's great.
FN
Divorced April 26 2007...
REMARRIED to a wonderful woman October 13, 2012!
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Congratulations!!!!!!!!! What a blessing!!!!
Good Luck and God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
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Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Glad to hear good news, and congratulations. It is awesome to read MB stories where there is also new life - perhaps life that would not have been born without recovery. Blessings to your family.
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Congratulations Doug.
All my best.
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Congratulations!! And thanks for the post...it was inspirational after all. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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Heyyy d-rose! Congratulations!!!!!!! I think I'll open up a bottle of wine myself. Of course, one year from now I expect you to come to Hawaii and throw a proper 1 Yr. Luau for that little girl. lol Do you still have the same numbers and e-mail addys you used to use? If not drop me an e-mail. How's Mrs. D? And your DD? I'm afraid to ask, cause I know that Mel will just have something to say to all the Yankees, but how'z Texas? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Talk to ya later. Many many blessing to you and the now larger family!!! S&C
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I cried when I read your post. I could be hormonal <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> but it was beautiful non the less!
CONGRATULATIONS!
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Congratulations, Doug! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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d rose~ Just wanted to add my congratulations as well...your post reminded me of a favorite quote about parenthood that I'll share with you... "Deciding to become a parent
is a momentous occasion,
for it is to forever decide
to let your heart
go walking around
outside of your body."
~author unknown (to me anyway <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ) How very true is that? Smiling For You, Mrs. Wondering
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Congradulations Doug and Lisa!
I'll bet you daughter is thrilled to be a big sister!
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Thanks guys. The wife and baby are fine. I finished the bottle last night. I'm not in Texas yet. Still trying to get out of that assignment (not that there is anything wrong with Texas). Something about Texas reaching it's yankee quota for the year. I guess people actually move there on purpose. Kidding.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I got offered a job here in Tampa at another unit on base. We'll see how that works out. s&c, All my contact info is still the same. I'll drop you a line later today. Trix, Our other daughter is almost 9 and is starting to warm up to the idea a little. We sat her down 7 months ago and were fishing for info on how she would feel about the idea of a brother or sister. We talked about her friend younger siblings and how she likeed them. We asked her what she thought about having a littler brother or sister. She looked up from accross the table (at Carabba's I think), took a drink of her coke (out of a wine glass) and with a more than skeptical look said: " I don't think I really like where this is going." She's 8 and saying stuff like this. Can't wait til the teen years. God bless Doug
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Was she able to be present at the birth too? (At the head of the bed with mom) It may have helped to bond her with her little sister. I would think she will come around. 9 yrs is a big age difference. She's been an only child for a while now.
The teen years were horrendous with our daughter. I blamed it on my H's A and my reactions to it. I suppose some of it could have been hormonal. It lasted a good 2 or 3 years. In hindsight, she can hardly believe she was like that. Hopefully, you won't have as difficult a time.
Hopefully, she will warm up to baby sister and enjoy playing with her and helping out a bit.
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Oh Doug!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm so happy!
And your oldest......sheesh! Nothing like hot tea squirted out of your nose early in the morning to wake you up. What a riot!
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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