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question about the EN questionnaire
#1574982 01/26/06 10:48 PM
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I filled out the EN questionnaire tonight, and I couldn't help but notice that the five most important ENs happened to correlate with the ones that I feel are not being fulfilled. For example, I know that Domestic Support is important, but my H is taking care of business there, and it isn't one of the top five. However, I have been feeling neglected in the affection department, and that is number one. I noticed this AFTER I filled it out. I was looking it over and it jumped out at me.

Anyone notice this trend? The five most important are the five you feel are missing? Or is it just me?

I wonder if I took it in six months, if things would be different.

Just an observation. Any thoughts? Did anyone else notice this?

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mother_earth #1574983 01/27/06 10:56 AM
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Mother Earth,

This sounds about right to me. I know that the ENs will change based on how things in your life are going. it makes sense to me that if you feel that your affection need is not being fulfilled, it will be in the top 5 needs.

For my situation, my FWS had an A because his sexual fulfillment need was not being met by me. When we did the EN questionnaire a few weeks ago, we did this based on where we were one year ago (pre-A) and now. Well, this need is still his #1 need, but last year I was not meeting it, and now I am.

I thin you are on the right track. and also keep in mind, that Dr. Harley says that men and womens' needs are typically NOT the same top 5.

Good luck,

BW (Me) 39 FWH (41) Married 14 yrs DS 4/2000 DD 12/2002 DD 8/2005 PA 1/05 - 9/12/05 D-Day 10/13/05 Status: Trying to rebuild

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