I am recently separated with no intentions to reconcile. I know that I'm not ready for a relationship yet...maybe not for a while.

However, my work often gives rise to social occasions to which "companions" are invited. The dinner table is always set for two. My STBXW used to attend begrudgingly - she objected to being my "arm candy" at these events.

My question - would you ladies be willing to attend an event like this that gives the appearance of being a couple without actually considering it a prelude to a relationship. Would you truly mind being social "arm candy" for an evening?

I have considered taking my daughter, but I fear that might cause a stir, as many do not know her. It might look like I'm taking up with a "younger woman".

I have considered asking my first cousin, as we are about the same age. She is happily married and I get along well with her H.

I've actually considered hiring a professional escort (not for sex)...I wouldn't have to explain the score to her, but I fear this could come back to haunt me as well.

I've even fantasized about calling up someone semi-famous like our town mayor or the local news anchor - "You don't know me, but I need a big favor..."

Otherwise, I fear my options are kind of limited without opening myself up...and I'm not ready to do that yet.

I suppose I could just call in sick...but I am really expected to be there.

Any other suggestions?

It doesn't have to be. Most women would enjoy a night out with good conversation with a friend (male or female).
Talk about your expectations up front and take care to ensure that your actions follow your words.

Yo Low - do you have to have a "date"? What's bad about not having one?

Regardless, I vote for your daughter (if she would be enthusiastic about it). It's honest and wholesome. No fakery or artificial stand-ins. And - so what if taking up with a "younger woman". Let 'em wonder! Just introduce her as your daughter as any proud pappy would.

WAT

Perhaps my daughter is the better idea. She could probably use the social business exposure as her chosen career will require that network.

It would be easier to introduce her than to have to explain why I am "stag". My impending divorce is not mainstream news. If I showed up alone, I'd be spending the evening explaining why my W wasn't there. I don't want to do that.

Thanks

All the more reason to not show up with "another woman". I also vote for bringing your daughter, I would bring mine in a heartbeat <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

There you go! A perfect arrangement for all concerned. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

LO~~

If it was with someone who I enjoy being around, I would rather enjoy an evening such as this! I think it could be fun! [cutting up and simply enjoying it]
I could absolutely go with no further intent in mind.

I say no to the escort though.

Are you not comfortable going alone? Is it all couples?
Just curious.

Good luck to you!
Karona

You already have the best answer, Low! Dad prep!!

Dates are overated anyway... more talk if you're not divorced and you're bringing someone who is not your wife.

I went to a christmas party with a doc I am just friends a few years ago. was legallys eparated from darth. it was NOT a date. no pda...nothing. no hand holding.

he's just my good friend.

and he ENJOYED BEING MY ARM CANDY.

it's fine. nice evening out. we had fun. great dinner. plus it was my first time going to event without my xh.

he was a great conversationalist. he got alogn with everybody. we had fun. and I was NOT looked at as the "single girl your H will stare at"...as I've walked in those shoes before. it is NOT comfy to be in that..

we had a fun evening with no pressures and no pretense.

and I realized at that day, I could go out, and be myself for once. My xh used to put his hand on my leg under the table...and when he felt I should be quiet, he would press down on my leg to tell me to "quiet down"...he was very controlling and resented that I had more education than he did. He hated going to medical events with me. just b/c of that.