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How did you handle the exchanges if in Plan B?
Did you greet/acknowledge your WS?
If he/she attempted to discuss anything other than your child(ren)/$$, did you just stop the conversation/refer him/her to PBL?
What about if the child(ren) were there (I am concerned about not saying anything inappropriate)?
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Serene, good to see you back here again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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Thanks Neak, it's been awhile. Life was calling my name <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I have been busy, busy, busy. And, I feel really good.
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Last edited by dorry; 01/28/06 02:34 PM.
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If WS tries to engage you in conversation ignore it...do not respond. On occasion you'll you get the "you're rude" comments, or I was just trying to be nice....
My children were 9 and 7. I picked them up EVERY day for baby sitters. I would come to door at first, if sh etried to engage me I ignored it. I eventually came to driveway and beeped horn....
You can only allow yourself to be engaged...do not do it!
Good luck..
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So, did you say nothing at all? Any communication re: your kids was not verbal?
Did your kids say anything about it? My son is very bright.
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nothing to xw at all....not even an acknowledgemnt she was there....
Oh..I would talk about boys...but I also got a ton of calls with behavior issues...I would put phone down and wait...eventually I would pick it up and simly ask "what is it that you want me to do right now?" And being the genius that she is she realized thee was not much I could do....
do not offer anything other than children...if there's a question that should not be answered. Do not....
They get message pretty quick....and will push it...
Kids see it...and may ask questions...My motto is tell them the truth..mine was that I "did not like Mommy very much"....
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Thanks for replying. So, to be clear, you did talk about your kids, only if necessary?
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only about kids, ONLY when necessary...
Did they eat? Yes...
what did they eat? Food...
how was it? ..no repsonse...
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OK, got it.
Can I ask how long this went on?
How did y'all get back together?
Had you done any Plan A'ing/how did she know things would be better/different?
Who made the 1st move toward reconciliation?
What were you doing during the time you were D'ed? Meaning, did you go on with your life, or did you hold out hope things were going to be OK in the end?
Thanks for answering. I am getting very close to Plan B and wanted to iron out the details before making the final decision.
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Serene, it's your lucky day day. It took me almost a week but here it is: My story!!!
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Thank you and congratulations <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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