My h and I work together. Our marriage is very bad. Can't even stand in the same room together without us fighting. We(I) have been working on it to the point where I'm just so burned out from trying. The man is mean, period. Try living with a depressed, mean, pessimistic person, it tends to tear one day after awhile.
Well, we work together as well. I am looking for a new job, for other reasons as well. Those who have read my post know my story in the Gen. Questions. I have asked him not to be up my butt at work and give me the space that I need. I need me time and we are together 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I have gotten to the point I just can't stand him!
The times I do find I get along nicely with him is when we have time apart, aka, he or I go to work and the opposite stays home. One on a business trip the other isn't. I can appreciate him and the marriage more when we have away time.
Question I'm asking is, is it wrong not to want to work and spend every second of the day with your spouse? Am I wrong taking lunch by myself (well with the girls) and going off on little trips to the grocery store/errands alone because I need to be away from him for awhile? Is this being selfish? Married people don't need to be together every second of the day to stay happily married do they? It is normal to have time for yourself isn't it? Wouldn't working together unless the couple enjoys it be destruction to a marriage?
I hate working with him and he is making me feel like the bad person when I ask him to just go off on his own at lunch, etc. I need my innoncent space and he is smothering me making me feel like a villian. It's so obvious that when we are not constantly together we get along better. Why can't he see that? Help/insight , someone, longhorn maybe?
